Category Archives: FetLife

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Article: A Hush-Hush Topic No More

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

As BDSM and kink continue to go more mainstream, it’s coverage in the media continues. This time there is a fairly positive news article to be found in today’s New York Times…

“On a recent Friday night, a small group of people lined up in a cinder-block hallway inside an unmarked entrance to Paddles, a club on West 26th Street. Two men in their 60s were discussing real estate and a few women in their 20s were sending last-minute texts before going down two flights to the subterranean space.”

“Paddles is not another trendy table tennis emporium, but a “safe space” to live out erotic fantasies, specifically BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism/masochism), OTK (over the knee; in other words, spanking), and an alphabet soup’s worth of other sexual practices that, until recently, have gone largely unnoticed and undiscussed by the mainstream world.”

The full article at the New York Times: A Hush-Hush Topic No More

The Annual End of Year Cycle

I suppose it shouldn’t surprise me anymore, but about this time every year, I get a sizeable upswing in profile views and contact messages through my profiles on various kink-related websites.

End of Year

One could easily assume that kinksters are facing the end of another year and looking forward to making new resolutions for the New Year — and that includes revving up their kink life!

In fact, on one website alone (Alt.com); I’ve received something like 5 times my usual/average amount of monthly views in December alone! This sort of thing continues for the first month or two of the year, as people start feeling a little house-bound and “antsy” because of all the wintry weather…

What does surprise me is the number of male Dominants that view my profile — I mean my profile name alone makes it pretty obvious that I am a FemDomme, so it’s not just casual browsing looking for a submissive. In fact, some of them come back again and again.

Perhaps they are not so “dominant” as they like to appear? I have had so-called “Alpha Doms” come crawling on their virtual knees, begging for play sessions to satisfy their submissive urges — but I have a hard time taking them seriously if they can’t even be honest with themselves and at least list themself as a “Switch”. And of course, they want this all to be “oh-so-discreet”! Seriously? Not gonna happen.

Have any other FemDommes out there had to face this “hidden” side of male Dominants — either in public or private? Please share your experiences, either in the comments below, or by sending an email via this blog.

4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party (Jan. 31st)


Year of the Ox

4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party

Saturday, January 31st, 2009

Dinner at Food Resto Lounge: 8 pm to 10 pm
Play party at the Loft: 10 pm to 3 am

The FemDomme Society of Montreal & ClubFetish.ca , in conjunction with the Montreal FetLife Munch group, invite you to join us in celebrating the beginning of the “Year of the Ox” with a magnificent supper munch and play party! Your organizers and hostesses for the evening are HeadMistress Jade Dragon, Ms. V and Maîtresse Mai.

Socialize with your peers, make new friends, enjoy a delightful meal and have some kinky fun at the play party! After dinner, our group will take a leisurely walk over to the “Loft Le Chateau” for the evening’s play party.

This is a pan-sexual event open to the entire community (18+ years, dominant, top, switch, bottom, submissive, slave, male, female, trans-gender, gender-queer, gender-fluid, straight, gay, lesbian, poly, etc.) . Our dress code even allows fetish wear at the restaurant!

RSVPs for the dinner and play party are separate and are both limited in number, so be sure to make yours as soon as possible to avoid disappointment. If we receive enough RSVPs, we even get to have the entire restaurant to ourselves!!

For more complete details (addresses, map, how to RSVP, etc.) please visit the following webpage:

http://clubfetish-fetlife-blog.eventbrite.com

I hope you will be able to join us if you are in the Montreal area! It looks to be our largest FemDomme Society and Club Fetish event yet!

Montreal FetLife Munch and Play Party

Yesterday evening, there was a wonderful FetLife munch here in Montreal, organized by Ms. V. It was held at a restaurant in the middle of the Gay Village and turned out to be quite the affair with about 70 attendees!

It was great to see a lot of old friends — Sir Marc, Mz. Tina & Mr. O, Lady Evyl, Countess Alura, minimike, slave ricky, sub g, drakor, and of course, Ms. V and Master André. It was lovely to meet several new people in person as well — Agdistis, NaughtyTrix, deblouses and kinkygentleman, amongst others.

I only planned on putting on my black leather corset at the Loft, but ended up putting it on over my white blouse at the restaurant — much earlier than I expected. However, my back injury was starting to ache quite a bit, and that corset really *does* help support my back extremely well. I don’t think I would have made it through dinner without it.

There was also a play party being held at the Loft that night and a number of attendees from the munch came to the party as well. For several of them, it was there first time attending a munch or a play party and I’m sure it certainly opened their eyes.

slave ricky and sub g were sweet enough to arrange for a lift to the Loft’s front door and back again to my car afterwards, which was parked near the restaurant several blocks away. It certainly helped to make a big difference not having to walk all those blocks, or to have to drive around looking for parking in the rain.

I got to spend some time with my big-little leather brother Sir Marc, catching up on various topics of discussion. One of my former submissives, minimike was there and I ended up doing a light mummification & wax play scene with him. he was surprised and pleased to have been able to have a few new experiences to add to his repertoire.

I also got to watch a fucking machine in action; it’s made by a local Montreal kinkster who has been spending quite a few years developing them. They are quite the machines, with a huge range of motions, speeds and pre-sets. The company is called Hugher Technology, in case you’d like to check them out…

It was really a wonderful event and I am looking forward to any more local FetLife events that are organized…

Review: Fetlife – Social Networking kink-style!

Social Networking

A few months ago, I joined a new website founded a fellow Montreal kinkster known as John Baku. It is called Fetlife and is a social networking site in the vein of Facebook or MySpace, except it is geared exclusively for BDSM, fetish and kink folk!

The place was a little sparse when it first started up, however John is very open to suggestions for improvement and with that in mind, the place has flourished in a relatively short time, with plenty of new members and lots of new features. It is free to join and there are absolutely no advertising banners and such, which is such a refreshing change.

This is my invitation to you to drop by and join Fetlife and while you are there, I also extend an invitation to join one or more of my discussion groups on there:

- Montreal & Ottawa BDSM, Fetish & Kink
- Montreal FemDomme Society
- FemDomme Society of Canada

Looking forward to crossing paths with you over on Fetlife, my ID is “HeadMistress_Jade“, so drop me a note to say hello if you are one of my blog readers and you do join!