Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. But Netherlands-based designer Mark Sturkenboom is bringing his sex toy to a whole new level of weird. The device, called 21 Grams, is “a memory box that allows a widow to go back to the intimate memories of a lost beloved one,” according to Sturkenboom’s website.
He’s created a special ‘memory box’ that happens to be inside a dildo. It also includes – more conventionally – a necklace and an amplifier for playing music that reminds you of the deceased. There’s also a scent diffuser and a gold-plated urn.
The glass urn allows you to place your loved one’s ashes inside — 21 grams of ashes, to be precise. It just so happens that 21 grams is popularly (and erroneously) thought of as the weight of the soul when it leaves the body on death, according to experiments performed by a doctor at the beginning of the 20th century.
Sturkenboom says he dreamed up the sex toy after noticing that an old woman that he assists with her groceries, who kept an urn containing the remains of her late husband. He felt that did not reflect the way she spoke so lovingly about him.
“In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself, ‘can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?’”
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Former dominatrix Terri-Jean Bedford has sent a letter to sex workers across Canada asking for feedback on whether she should reveal the names of politicians she claims have employed sex workers.
Bedford, who led the legal battle that overturned Canada’s prostitution laws, threatened to name naughty politicians at a Senate hearing last month into C-36, the law the Conservative government is bringing in to make it illegal to buy sex.
Releasing a list would “show the hypocrisy of those who want to impose their will on others while themselves engaging in the very behaviour they want to others to stop.” She also suggests that her plan would keep the issue in the public eye. “Nothing attracts media attention as much as politics combined with scandals of this kind.”
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If you’ve ever complained that the trolls junking up online comment sections are a bunch of sadistic psychopaths, you might be onto something. An online survey by a group of Canadian researchers suggests that Internet trolls are more likely than others to show signs of sadism, psychopathy and “Machiavellianism”: a disregard for morality and tendency to manipulate or exploit others.
“It was sadism, however, that had the most robust associations with trolling of any of the personality measures,” says an article by psychologists from the University of Manitoba, University of Winnipeg and University of British Columbia. “In fact, the associations between sadism and … scores were so strong that it might be said that online trolls are prototypical everyday sadists.” Sadism is a tendency to take pleasure in other people’s pain or discomfort.
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