Category Archives: Lady Nikki

A member of my “Leather Family”, I consider her to be one of my little sisters.

Review of the FemDomme Society Chinese New Year Dinner


I recently spent several weeks of intense promotion and organization for this year’s annual Chinese New Year Dinner Munch, on behalf of the FemDomme Society and ClubFetish. It has been a rather hectic time for me, with so many last minute details that required my personal attention.

Unfortunately, on Friday, the day before the dinner event, my poor sweet alpha submissive, toriko, came down with hot and cold chills and a nasty fever of 99.4°C, (his usual temperature is 96.5°). I decided to drive into town and pick him up from work early, as he sounded horrible over the phone, with hardly any voice — I seriously did not want him to try to maneuver the public transportation system while he was in that shape.

I brought my pet toriko home and proceeded to tuck him into his floor mat at the foot of my bed. That way I could keep a close watch on him while I continued with various last minute preparations for the next day. Despite a few coughing fits, he slept like a log for over 15 hours; which did seem to help him somewhat. He did have a brief peak of improvement for a few hours during Saturday afternoon, but he quickly tired out again. My poor houseboy *really* wanted to attend the dinner and play party, however he agreed that it would not be the wisest thing to do under the circumstances. I reminded him how he had encouraged me to stay home for health reasons when I had come home from the hospital and that this time around it was his turn to take it easy and concentrate instead on getting well.


I originally started this tradition of celebrating the Chinese New Year about 10 years or so ago; with a completely different circle of friends. Gradually it came to include more and more of my kink friends until I decided to simply launch it as a kink community event three years ago. The beginning of the Chinese New Year can vary from late January to the third week in February; and I’ve found that often by mid-February most folk are looking for a good excuse to dress up and go out to enjoy themselves after surviving the holidays.

In past years, we averaged 12-15 or so guests, however this year we received quite a bit more interest. In fact, we received many RSVPs during the last week leading up to the event; however we had a few same-day cancellations due to illness, work, and family reasons. There were also a few no-shows, most likely due to the snowy weather, bringing our actual tally of dinner guests to a total of 35.

I decided to wear my new black “corset” skirt, with elegant ribbon lacing up the back; combined with my shimmery red asian-style jacket, as red is considered a good luck colour in Chinese culture. I wore one of my favourite bezelled black stone necklaces and matching earrings and a silver earcuff as an accent, and a long braid down my back.

I was blessed with the assistance of Lady Evyl, who assisted with checking in the dinner guests as they arrived. I chose to offer discreet nametags and colour-coded dots, for those who wished to self-identify either their D/s orientation and/or availability. Pretty well everybody chose to have one, as it made it much easier for remembering your neighbouring dinner guests’ names, which in turn made it that much more conducive to conversation.

I was pleased to be able to welcome such a wide range of guests, from Dominants and switches, to submissives and slaves, and all genders from male and female to transgender. Among the guests were some of my dear friends: Domina Jade, Sir Marc, Miss Kinky, Maddog, Lady Nikki, and of course, my housemate, Lord Michael. Several submissive friends were also there including sabine, slave ricky, pima and BackSeatBebe, as well as two of my play partners JF and Lady Roxy. Although my alpha submissive toriko was not there, my new probationary submissive “g” was there at my beck and call throughout the night. I was also very happy to see one of my old submissives, minimike, and we got to spend a little while catching up with each other.

There were several members of some of my online discussion groups from ALT, as well as some local kinksters from CollarMe. We were even lucky enough to welcome a few guests all the way from Ottawa! Everyone was very friendly and open for discussions both during and after dinner.

The majority of our guests decided to go for Hot & Spicy’s “Taster’s Choice” menu in order to sample from the variety of over 85 dishes available. I was truly surprised when my probationary sub “g” mentioned he had never been to a Chinese restaurant in his life; and so I had him seated across from me and made several choices of dishes for him to try (keeping in mind his dietary health restrictions).

We finished off our dinner with my now traditional and popular “kinky fortune cookies”; this year I even managed to have both english and french versions. They were a great hit, particularly with the guests who had never been to any of our previous Chinese New Year dinners.

We had managed to secure a discounted entrance rate for our guests if they chose to join us at the fetish play party that was being held afterwards at the Loft Le Chateau, located in Montreal’s Gay Village. It was a great way for some of the novices to be gently introduced to the BDSM play scene; so that they could observe, learn and ask questions. About half of our guests braved the evening’s snowfall and decided to join us for the night’s fun.

I must admit that I had a wonderful time at the Loft making use of some of my favourite playmates and spending time with friends, both old and new. (I’ll be posting more about my play party scene in a later post.) Several people came up to me during the evening and told me how much they had enjoyed themselves, both at the dinner as well as at the play party. All in all, it seems like it was a great success and I look forward to organizing similar events in the months to come.

** (I am still not fully recovered from my stint in the hospital ICU and I found it took me a full two days to recuperate after the whole dinner event and play party. At least I am aware of this now and can make sure to be able to take the time to rest and get some of my energy back when I attend events that tend to drain me…)

Review: 2nd Annual FemDomme Society & Club Fetish Dinner

Chinese New Year of the Pig

This year, we held our 2nd annual FemDomme Society Dinner in conjunction with Club Fetish, to celebrate the beginning of the Chinese New Year of the Pig. Normally we hold try to hold it on a Saturday evening, however the Chinese New Year actually began on February 18th, so we thought it would be very appropriate to hold it that night.

Once again, the dinner was held at “Restaurant Hot & Spicy”, as it offers a wonderful “Taster’s Choice” menu which is very much like a buffet in terms of being all-you-can-eat, but each dish is made as you order it.

I made use of a great new online tool called “Eventbrite” in order to coordinate and promote the event. It also made it so much easier for people to register and send in their RSVPs and automatically receive their event confirmation emails. We had a few last minute drop-outs due to the weather, so we were 12 for dinner: myself, my submissive toriko, Lord Michael, Lady Katana, Lady Nikki, Sir Marc, Maddog, Maitresse Mai, Maitre Gargoyle and his lady friend, sextoysissy and one more.

Unfortunately, my dear friend Domina Jade was unable to attend as she was obviously spending Chinese New Year’s with her family. I had my submissive houseboy toriko pick up Lady Nikki and help attend to her her needs all evening, as she had recently broken her wrist and was wearing a cast and sling.

Dinner was very intimate, we had three circular tables pulled together into a larger circle. As a group we ate an amazing variety of dishes and I think we all ate a bit too much but everything was *so* good! I also brought some mandarin orange tea for everyone to share in addition to the usual pots of green tea.

fortune cookie and chopsticks

I did have some nice surprises for our dinner guests; I managed to obtain some beautifully decorated pairs of chopsticks for each guest to use for the dinner and for them to keep afterwards as kinky toys (combined with elastic bands they make interesting clamps!). There were also some “kinky fortune cookies” that I created, with an assortment of perverted sayings, which turned out to be very popular with everyone — I’ll have to be sure to make more of them for next year!

Review: Fetish School’s 3rd Anniversary Fetish Ball

Fetish School 3rd Anniv. Ball

The beautiful Isabeau, of Fetish-School organized yet another lavish Fetish Ball on Saturday January 27th, in honour of the 3rd anniversary of her F-S website. Many of my kinky friends and I were looking forward to the event and planned to meet up there.

Because it was so horribly cold and I did not feel like driving, I arranged for my male submissive toriko to pick me up and drive me to the Fetish Ball. For the evening, I decided to wear my black leather corset with long draping sleeves, elbow length black velvet gloves, a long black skirt that matched the sleeves of my corset and my antique top hat.

This was to be Lady Nikki‘s first major fetish event, and I had promised that I woud meet with her and that she could stay with me for the duration of the night, if she wished. Unfortunately, it took a while to find her in the darkness of the Bain Mathieu‘s interior, compounded by the fact that I kept getting stopped by many people greeting me. I momentarily lost track of my submissive toriko in the crowd, and had to remind him to stay very close by my side for the entire evening, unless he had permission to wander around.

When I finally found Lady Nikki, we made our way down the staircase into the pool area, which now forms the dance floor, and then even further downstairs into the lounge and BDSM dungeon area. Luckily, it was not long before we met up with our old Club Fetish friends, Domina Jade and Sir Marc.

Domina Jade was accompanied by a male sub for the evening, who had purchased a beautiful new outfit for her earlier that weekend. It was a gorgeous black PVC skirt and PVC corset-style camisole in black with deep blood red trim. Seeing as I had not see her since her birthday in late January, I had brought her a small birthday token — a necklace with a large silver key pendant, signifiying a “Chastity Keyholder”, and which matches my own key necklace. I adjusted the length so that it nestled very provocatively within her deep cleavage.

Key Necklace

Sir Marc was also in attendance and was accompanied by the sissy maid sub, sabine, of which he was in control for the night’s fun. The two made quite an impressive pair as they were both dressed in black PVC and latex. I got a chance to say hello to Mistress Zyra and Malcolm, who are major fans of latex and mummification.

We managed to commandeer ourselves one of the inflatable couches for the majority of the evening. I directed my submissive toriko to fetch one of the stiff foam floor mats for him to sit on the floor at my feet, as the concrete was entirely too cold to sit on for an extended period. (I noticed several other people taking advantage of these new floor mats, and not all of them were subs.)

I had a chance to spend some time chatting with my friend Argaive, a local fetish photographer. I was also extremely pleased to cross paths with Lord Peter, a very dear friend of mine who I’ve known for almost 2 decades. I was approached by a gentleman halfway through the evening, whom I did not recognize — however it turned out to be “Roisin’s hands”, an online acquaintance from ALT, whom I had never had a chance to meet in person. What a delightful surprise!

There was some amazing eye candy to be seen throughout the evening, with a variety of leather, latex, PVC, goth, uniforms, cross-dressing, naughty schoolgirls and general fetish wear. I was pleased to see a large increase in the number of gay leather men in attendance for this particular event. In fact, Sir Paul, of the DOM-MS Academy was also there and we spoke briefly. I introduced him to my newest stable sub, toriko, and he commented on what a good boy he was and patted his head affectionately.

Actually, my submissive toriko is quite young looking for his age and can be considered quite the “pretty boy” by some. I noticed a trio of large leather “bears” pointing him out to each other and eyeing him for a while. I discreetly nudged him closer to my feet and let him rest his head on my knees, so as to show them that he was already spoken for…

Later on, I gave toriko permission to walk around on his own, to meet up and say hello to some of his own friends at the Ball. He brought them back to me and introduced them to me; they were very polite and kissed my hand in greeting. (Lady Nikki took note of it and mentioned that they did not do that to any of the other Ladies to which they were introduced.)

The dungeon play zone was rather crowded in the later part of the evening. It made it very difficult for any of the serious BDSM people to play, as clueless people would be crowding right behind them and often in the strike zone of the floggers and such. Many of them gave up after a while, or did not even bother playing because it was not suitable for their space and safety needs. We are planning to discuss this with Isabeau, in the hopes that this might be able to be remedied for the next major April Fool’s Fetish Ball.

Towards the end of the night, Domina Jade, Lady Nikki and myself left the dungeon to join the dance floor and check out some of the action. I even danced a bit, despite my knees aching due to the cold weather outside. I stationed my submissive boy nearby, to guard my toybag and my top hat while the three of us Ladies danced. DJ and I even had a fun and sensuous girl/girl dance to Portishead’s Glory Box.

Some people had already started leaving at around 3 am, in order to catch their late night buses, but that still left a large enough contingent of the more hard-core partiers, who had access to their own vehicles or rides with friends. The three of us Ladies, with our 2 submissives in tow, decided to leave at around 4 am, and drove in a convoy of vehicles to the nearest Tim Hortons to warm ourselves up with some French Vanilla, hot chocolate and coffee. We were in luck that they were starting breakfast at 5 am, so we all grabbed a bite before heading off to our respective homes.

After ensuring that toriko was still in good enough shape to drive, I had him drive me back home to the West Island, where it was close to 6 am by the time I got in the door. Needless to say, I spent most of Sunday catching up on my sleep. All in all, a very enjoyable night of fun — I am looking forward to the next one on March 31st!

Spending New Year’s with kinky friends

New Year’s Day champagne

On January 2nd, several of my kink friends and I attended a local “open house” being held at the home of a local kink couple. Several people brought various dishes to share and there was plenty to eat. It was a fairly quiet night, but I did have fun giving my pretty boy toriko a little challenge for the evening. I had him undress down to his thong and put my set of “spider chains” on him; considering that he did not have a collar on, I needed to drape one of the strands around his neck, which caused him to have to hunch over.

Then of course I gave him a few tasks to do, such as to fetch me a full cup of coffee from the kitchen *without spilling a drop*. It was interesting to see how my boy managed a solution by covering the top of the cup with a saucer, as well as using one under it!

Most of us left around midnight, and since it was nearby; I offered our home for my friends from Club Fetish (Sir Marc, Domina Jade and Lady Nikki) to drop by for a bit more time together. This was a bit outside of my comfort zone; as I rarely have people over. This is probably because my older sister is a bit of a “Martha Stewart” and has always impressed me with her extraordinary housekeeping and interior design skills and I ended up feeling that I could never live up to those standards and that my house would never be truly “ready” for visitors.

However, with the beginning of the New Year, I decided to try and overcome this discomfort and that I should instead try to enjoy the good times that I could with my circle of friends. I did explain this to them, telling them to be forgiving of the surroundings (which were still a bit chaotic from the Christmas holidays) — and so, like the great friends they are, they did, and so I welcomed them into my home.

tea and shortbread

I had my houseboy toriko make some tea for everyone, and we shared the delicious shortbread cookies that Lord Michael and I had made for the holidays and made sure that everyone had some to take home afterwards.

Godiva liqueur

I also broke open the special bottle of Lady Godiva Chocolate Liqueur that Michael had given me as a gift for Christmas. Between that and a bottle of Bailey’s Irish Cream, we had a great time chatting and sharing stories until about 5 in the morning, when it was decided that it might be a good idea if we all got some sleep. All in all, I’m so glad that I had my friends over and will make a conscious decision to try and have them over more often in the months and years to come.