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A Quebec Long Weekend

Quebec’s provincial holiday, known as “La fête St-Jean” is quickly approaching and almost everyone is looking forward to a long holiday weekend.

I am looking forward to spending time with my beloved Partner, Oudjat — as work obligations meant that we missed out on time together last weekend. So I guess we’ll be trying to make up for it this weekend!

At least the weather isn’t looking so outrageously hot as it has been earlier this month. There’s a bit of cloud expected, and even the possibility of a thunderstorm on Sunday; but that won’t stop us from having fun.

We are also looking forward to attending Saturday’s BDSM play party at our favourite kinky home-away-from-home, the Club L’Espace dungeon — located in Montreal’s popular downtown Village area.

The Gay Village is currently in it’s summertime pedestrian mode, and is sporting it’s colourful decorative rainbow balls overhead.

A Weekend of Family Time & Kinky Time

An interesting weekend filled with both family obligations, and some kinky social time…

My partner Oudjat and I had the weekend to ourselves for a change, and spent the first part of it just chilling out, cuddling and taking it easy. Extremely relaxing!

On Saturday evening, we had a family obligation for a Birthday dinner, with a lovely home-cooked meal and topped it off with a magnificent 5 Layer Chocolate Mocha cake that Oudjat picked out at my favourite local Moroccan pastry shop in his neighbourhood.

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After a quick turn-around to my place to freshen up, and pick up our kinky “toy bag” of goodies; we headed downtown to Club L’Espace, our favourite dungeon and kinky social zone. It was a delight to meet up with an old friend, my former submissive “g”, as we hadn’t seen in each other since last December and it was very enjoyable time chatting and catching up with each other.

We stayed at Club L’Espace until closing (after 4am) and headed back home as the morning sun was rising and the sleepy city was slowly coming back awake. I really love that quiet interlude between when the night’s noisy party-makers have already headed home, and Montreal’s early morning workers have yet to make an appearance. It’s a great time to take a nice walk in one of the many parks, or even a slow drive home through the almost-deserted city streets is that much more enjoyable.

I really love my city and it’s many facets!

The Annual End of Year Cycle

I suppose it shouldn’t surprise me anymore, but about this time every year, I get a sizeable upswing in profile views and contact messages through my profiles on various kink-related websites.

End of Year

One could easily assume that kinksters are facing the end of another year and looking forward to making new resolutions for the New Year — and that includes revving up their kink life!

In fact, on one website alone (Alt.com); I’ve received something like 5 times my usual/average amount of monthly views in December alone! This sort of thing continues for the first month or two of the year, as people start feeling a little house-bound and “antsy” because of all the wintry weather…

What does surprise me is the number of male Dominants that view my profile — I mean my profile name alone makes it pretty obvious that I am a FemDomme, so it’s not just casual browsing looking for a submissive. In fact, some of them come back again and again.

Perhaps they are not so “dominant” as they like to appear? I have had so-called “Alpha Doms” come crawling on their virtual knees, begging for play sessions to satisfy their submissive urges — but I have a hard time taking them seriously if they can’t even be honest with themselves and at least list themself as a “Switch”. And of course, they want this all to be “oh-so-discreet”! Seriously? Not gonna happen.

Have any other FemDommes out there had to face this “hidden” side of male Dominants — either in public or private? Please share your experiences, either in the comments below, or by sending an email via this blog.

Training the American husband

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I thought this article might be of interest, particularly those FemDommes who are in an extended relationship with their submissive / boyfriend / husband… I’ve been using some of these techniques for years!

So, like many wives before me, I ignored a library of advice books and set about improving him. By nagging, of course, which only made his behavior worse: he’d drive faster instead of slower; shave less frequently, not more; and leave his reeking bike garb on the bedroom floor longer than ever.

… I listened, rapt, as professional trainers explained how they taught dolphins to flip and elephants to paint. Eventually it hit me that the same techniques might work on that stubborn but lovable species, the American husband.

The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don’t. After all, you don’t get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging. The same goes for the American husband.

Follow this link to read the entire article.

Montreal FetLife Munch and Play Party

Yesterday evening, there was a wonderful FetLife munch here in Montreal, organized by Ms. V. It was held at a restaurant in the middle of the Gay Village and turned out to be quite the affair with about 70 attendees!

It was great to see a lot of old friends — Sir Marc, Mz. Tina & Mr. O, Lady Evyl, Countess Alura, minimike, slave ricky, sub g, drakor, and of course, Ms. V and Master André. It was lovely to meet several new people in person as well — Agdistis, NaughtyTrix, deblouses and kinkygentleman, amongst others.

I only planned on putting on my black leather corset at the Loft, but ended up putting it on over my white blouse at the restaurant — much earlier than I expected. However, my back injury was starting to ache quite a bit, and that corset really *does* help support my back extremely well. I don’t think I would have made it through dinner without it.

There was also a play party being held at the Loft that night and a number of attendees from the munch came to the party as well. For several of them, it was there first time attending a munch or a play party and I’m sure it certainly opened their eyes.

slave ricky and sub g were sweet enough to arrange for a lift to the Loft’s front door and back again to my car afterwards, which was parked near the restaurant several blocks away. It certainly helped to make a big difference not having to walk all those blocks, or to have to drive around looking for parking in the rain.

I got to spend some time with my big-little leather brother Sir Marc, catching up on various topics of discussion. One of my former submissives, minimike was there and I ended up doing a light mummification & wax play scene with him. he was surprised and pleased to have been able to have a few new experiences to add to his repertoire.

I also got to watch a fucking machine in action; it’s made by a local Montreal kinkster who has been spending quite a few years developing them. They are quite the machines, with a huge range of motions, speeds and pre-sets. The company is called Hugher Technology, in case you’d like to check them out…

It was really a wonderful event and I am looking forward to any more local FetLife events that are organized…

Article – Bondage Lovers Lead Happier Lives

Found an article today that might be of interest to my blog readers…

Happy Bondage article pic

An unusual sex survey has found that Australians who enjoy bondage and discipline are not damaged or dangerous, and might even be happier than those who practise “normal” sex.

The research showed two per cent of adult Australians regularly partake in sadomasochism and dominance and submission-type sexual role play.

And contrary to commonly-held stereotypes, they are not doing so in reaction to sexual abuse or because they are “sexually deficient” in some way, according the study of 20,000 Australians by public health researchers at the University of NSW.

Check out the rest of the article here and come back to post your comments; I’d be interested to read your opinion on it.

Montreal’s International Kinky Festival, August 7-10th

International Kinky Festival

So as many of my regular blog readers have realized by now, Montreal is a downright kinky city — full of lovely decadent folk and plenty of perverted activities.

This weekend is an exemplary one, because Montreal is hosting the first annual International Kinky Festival; complete with plenty of great workshops, various parties and of course to top everything off, a grand Fetish Ball! Here are a few other hightlights to look forward to:

My amazing “little sister” Domina Jade presented one of her workshops last night, entitled Dirty Talking, which I’m sure was a total success as usual.

Montreal’s former Sex Geek Andrea Zanin, now living in Toronto; will be returning to our kinky city to present two workshops, including one on the Pleasures of Female Fisting on Saturday afternoon.

One of my friends from California, the reknowned sexual educator and author, Midori, will be presenting Scene Dynamics and Psychology of Rope Bondage on Saturday afternoon, and later on that evening will be doing a mind-blowing suspension show along with Kumi Monster, at the Dark Fairy Tales Fetish Ball, to be held at Bain Mathieu.

I plan on attending the Fetish Ball along with my alpha submissive toriko, as well as the company of Sir Marc and Lady Nikki; I’m awaiting confirmation from the rest of my leather family as to their attendance…

All in all, I am looking forward to a wonderfully exhausting weekend absolutely full of kink!