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Another quiet Christmas

My houseboy toriko has still been looking for a new job once the older offer turned out to not be what they had promoted it to be. As a result, he has been getting a bit frustrated with his job search during the holidays, as very few companies are hiring at this time. I cautioned him not to worry, as the job market would pick up once again as the new year started afresh.

So, my gift from my submissive toriko was for him to stay with us and attend to my every need for two weeks during the end of December and beginning of January. He had already been spending so much time here taking care of me since my return home out of the hospital, that it only seemed natural to extend his stay to include the holidays. As usual, he slept on his mat on the floor at the foot of my bed, so that he could be nearby should I need anything in the middle of the night.

Christmas shopping

I didn’t have much shopping to do for the holidays; however I did make two shopping expeditions; the first to Carrefour Laval with toriko and my painslut JF and the second to Fairview Pointe Claire with toriko and our sweet playmate Roxy. Because of the holiday crowds, I made use of my three-wheeled electric scooter, in order to save my energy and not overtax myself. It was nice to get out with friends, but was still rather tiring because of all the chaos and noise. I was quite happy to pick up some nice geeky toys to spoil the big “boys” in my life…

For my house-mate Lord Michael, I choose a very cool set of remote-controlled “Air Havoc” helicopters; they are small and light enough to fly indoors and can battle each other with small lasers! These should be lots of fun to experiment with in the months to come…

Air_Havoc_copters

For my submissive toriko, I tracked down an extremely lightweight Bluetooth headset to go with his high-end cellphone; they are quite sleek and it doesn’t hurt that they are also in my favourite colours of red and black. They allow him to listen to his mp3 library on his phone and go seamlessly to any incoming phone call. He just adored them!

Motorola ROKR headphones

I received some money again as gifts from various family and friends, so I picked myself up a few things that I had been eyeing recently; among them was some new aircraft aluminum bondage suspension rings, two large “panic snaps” and about two hundred feet of black and red rope including 50 feet of new “flat rope”.

suspension ring

I am looking forward to the opportunity of putting my newly expanded shibari and suspension rope bondage kit to good use in the new year!

Pussy Bondage

I’m buried in preparations for my upcoming trip, but I thought I’d post a photo I came across a while back that made me chuckle — I’m sure that it will do the same for you…

pussy bondage

Extreme porn sparks UK legislation proposal

(from BBC News)

A man addicted to violent porn websites has been convicted for the second time of murdering a teacher. Legislation to ban such sites is going through Parliament, but a small group of otherwise law-abiding people say the changes will criminalise them.

Jane Longhurst’s killer Graham Coutts admitted he was addicted to violent pornography websites. The 39-year-old musician had downloaded hundreds of images of women being raped and strangled as well as pictures purporting to show necrophilia. Coutts was found guilty of murder in 2004 but the conviction was quashed on a technicality.

His second trial at the Old Bailey, which jailed him for life, heard he was a regular visitor to websites depicting extreme material. He accessed these sites only hours before killing Miss Longhurst and again in the weeks that he kept her body in a self-storage facility in Brighton.

His barrister, Christopher Sallon QC, asked him at one point: “The suggestion is you were acting out a fantasy from a pornographic image that you accessed with the internet? Were you charged up and sexually aroused by Jane Longhurst, dead, with a ligature on?” Coutts denied it. But then he had lied about so much else, including his claim she had agreed to sex on the day she disappeared and acquiesced when he suggested a sex game involving her being partially strangled with a pair of tights.

After the original trial Miss Longhurst’s mother, Liz, organised a petition of 50,000 people and succeeded in persuading the home secretary to introduce legislation banning the downloading and possession of violent or “extreme” pornography. She said: “I feel pressure should be brought to bear on internet service providers (ISPs) to close down or filter out these pornographic sites, so that people like Jane’s killer may no longer feed their sick imaginations and do harm to others.”

Ms Longhurst’s former partner Malcolm Sentance said at the time: “Jane would still be here if it wasn’t for the internet.” The ban was included in the Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill, details of which were announced by the government last week. The Bill has yet to be debated by Parliament but there is growing opposition to the clause among a small but vociferous community who say they will be criminalised.

The community, comprising people involved in bondage, domination and sado-masochism (BDSM), has organised a petition against the new legislation, which 1,800 people have signed. Deborah Hyde, of the pressure group Backlash, argues that perverted predators like Coutts will always exist and no amount of “kneejerk” legislation would prevent them from killing. She said the vast majority of BDSM people believed in consensual activities and would not wish to inflict actual harm on their partners. They did not want to view snuff movies or actual cruelty but would be criminalised for watching pornography which was acted out by actors.

Ms Hyde said the government had already widened the description of “extreme” pornography to include some gay porn. She said: “The government is trying to put us in the same category as rapists, murderers and paedophiles. I want to make the world a safer place but this law will not help. It is not good law and it is being rushed through. There is a lot of research which says that giving access to this sort of material actually reduces crimes against women.”

Helen and John, who live in the Midlands, are opposed to the legislation. They say they are in a loving relationship which just happens to involve domination and submissiveness. Helen said the government was overreacting to the Jane Longhurst case: “The supply of BDSM stuff has gone up hugely but there is no killing spree. If all this violent pornography is causing people to go psycho where are all the damaged people? Do you ban alcohol just because some people are alcoholics?”

Dr Meg Barker, a senior lecturer in psychology at London South Bank University, said: “The current fears around the possible impact of ‘violent pornography’ on the internet seem very similar to previous ‘moral panics’ there have been from penny dreadfuls in Victorian times, to horror comics in the 1950s, to video nasties in the 1980s. Images of consensual, or fictitious, acts between adults should not be criminalised,” she said, adding that there was evidence that “kinky” and S&M activities were on the increase among “normal” heterosexual couples.

But Labour MP Martin Salter, who has worked closely with Mrs Longhurst in pushing the legislation, rejected the BDSM community’s claims their civil liberties were being undermined. He said: “No-one is stopping people doing weird stuff to each other but they would be strongly advised not to put it on the internet. “At the end of the day it is all too easy for this stuff to trigger an unbalanced mind.”

Mr Salter, MP for Reading West, said: “These snuff movies are other stuff are seriously disturbing. Many police officers who have to view it as part of their job have to undergo psychological counselling.” He insisted the law did not ban anything which was not already illegal under the Obscene Publications Act.

“It simply plugs a hole in the law because the Obscene Publications Act is about as much use as a chocolate fireguard as far as the internet is concerned. This new law is designed to meet the challenge of the internet.” But Ms Hyde said the Obscene Publications Act targeted the producers while the new act would criminalise the consumers.

Story from BBC news: http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/2/hi/uk_news/6237226.stm

Friday night with pizza and a friend

Pizza

On Friday night, my friend Sir Marc came by for an impromptu visit. I had been working quite hard during the course of the day on one of my client’s web projects and was really due for a break. So, literally within minutes of putting away the project for the night, I get this phone call — it’s Marc and he’s bored…

Well, I was in the mood for a bit of socializing, but not quite up to heading out of the house — my earlier adventure this week to Northbound Leather with Lady Katana took quite a bit out of me. So we decided that he should come over here and we’d catch up on stuff over a pizza. I managed to keep my voice going all night by constantly sipping on hot tea, along with the help of lots of cough drops.

We ended up spending several hours chatting about geeky stuff; mainly about website design, marketing and publicity. As he put it, he wanted to “pick my brain” on ideas on how to make his upcoming website work well with some of the ideas he has.

I brought out my sexy Apple laptop to show him some stuff I’ve been working on recently. He was caught off guard at first until I explained that we have the house and studio equipped for wireless high-speed internet access with my Airport Express.

I also showed him my newly revamped blog. He really liked the look of it a lot and it seems to have inspired him to catch up on his blog entries as well. Sir Marc’s blog is now listed in my “Kinky Blogs” blogroll on the right hand side.

We also discussed about some of his recent purchases of new latex clothing. I showed him a pic of the new red leather corset that I have ordered and that I hope to get in time for next weekend’s big April Fool’s Fetish Ball.

Speaking of which, we also did some last minute brainstorming. Our group of kinky friends, Club Fetish, has been coordinating with the Fetish Ball organizer, Isabeau, on how we can help to improve the BDSM dungeon area of the event. Hopefully by implementing some of our tips, it should make for a safer and more enjoyable playzone for everyone, as well as improving the overall traffic flow in the downstairs lounge area.

We also commiserated how little we’ve had the chance to practice our bondage techniques since we both graduated from Midori’s Rope Dojo last fall. We both hope to remedy that in the near future though.

All in all, Sir Marc ended up leaving at around 3:30 am to drive back home. I’m really glad he dropped by; it was an enjoyable evening with a kinky friend that did me a lot of good mentally. (I’m not too sure how much good it did for my throat though, as my voice has been rather rough all day Saturday and I’ve had to let several phone calls go to voicemail since I was not in any shape to talk very much…)

On My Way Home…

Covered Bridge

The day I left from Nova Scotia, my Mom was also packing up for a trip to Cape Breton, so the house was a bit chaotic. After another late night, I tried getting up early enough to be on time for the opening of the online registration of Midori’s Rope Dojo that is being held on the weekend of October 28 & 29th in Montreal.

I had a touch of panic when the registration wasn’t operating yet, as it stated that it would open at 6am Pacific time. I would be heading on the road soon and wouldn’t necessarily have another chance to try until I got home. I remember how fast Midori‘s previous Rope Dojos had sold out and wanted to make sure that I could register for our two spaces.

I remained calm and ran a few last minute errands around town; including picking up a handful of good quality riding crops and two dressage whips from the local agricultural Coop for some friends back home. When I returned to finish packing my wagon, I tried the registration process one more time — Success! What a relief! So, Michael and I are now registered for Midori’s Rope Dojo and we are really looking forward to it.

I left on the road at the same time my Mom left and we waved again as we went our separate ways. Although I did not manage to get as many things done on my to-do list that I would have liked (primarily due to the weather and my car key crisis); it had still been very enjoyable to spend time with my Mom and my older sister.

The first leg of my trip to Fredericton was relatively uneventful and I pulled up to Dooleys at around 8:45 pm. I had made last minute arrangements to meet with some of the local kink community on my way back home. I was greeted by two friendly locals, Bob & Mad and we sat in the comfy couches near the fireplace to exchange some stories and share experiences. We had some interesting discussions including comparing & contrasting our respective kink communities — quite the difference! It was a fun experience and I am looking forward to the next time I have the opportunity to stop there again, hopefully with more lead time so that more people could make it out for an informal munch type gathering.

I stopped for a quick bite to eat before continuing on the road around 11 pm. About a half hour afterwards, it started to rain, a little while later and it was an absolute downpour. Even with my Rain-X rain repellant on the windshield it quickly became undriveable, so I found a safe rest-over place at a 24hr truck stop/restaurant/gas station and slept in the back of my wagon until morning.

Continued on my way, enjoying the countryside with the early morning fog. Found a lovely spooky abandoned farmhouse along the way, so I stopped to do some photography. I even enjoyed a breakfast of handfuls of wild raspberries from amidst the masses of wildflowers; what a nice way to start the morning. Stopped briefly in Hartland, New Brunswick to refill my Tim Horton’s French Vanilla Cappucino and to photograph the world’s longest covered bridge in the morning fog. (See my blog photo on the top.)

As usual, I crossed the border at the Edmunston NB & Madawaska ME border, in order to fill up on relatively cheap gas (at least compared to Canadian prices). Stocked up on some of my favourites – Sobe Green Ice Tea, as it is hard to find back in Montreal.

The last leg of the trip across the province of Quebec was extremely hot and muggy; thank goodness for air conditioning! I was originally planning to stop in Quebec City to do some more photography but the heat made me decide otherwise, since it would have made for too much of an exhausting day, especially since I still had three more hours of driving back to Montreal. I’m glad I skipped my excursion, as I was already very tired when I pulled into my driveway at around 4 pm, with not even enough energy to unpack the car.

I was very glad for my new iPod during this trip to the Maritimes and back. There are several parts of the journey when there are few if any decent radio stations; and it allowed me to listen to my own collection music with absolutely no commercials or annoying announcers, and without having to change my CDs all the time. Strangely enough, the last song that played on my iPod as I drove the last few streets home was entitled “I’m Going Home” by Chris de Burgh; the opening line of which is “I left my home by the ocean…”

Michael was a sweetheart and had burned some of my favourite scented oils for my return, so the house smelled so sweet and inviting when I walked in the door; to be welcomed by him and the cats. I do love travelling and exploring, but there is nothing quite so nice as returning home to your own comfy bed…

Breaking In a *Virgin* Stable Boy…

minimike in bondage

(Photo montage shows my stable boy’s submission in bondage, complete with gorgeous rope marks… Enjoy! Click to see a larger version of the image.)

My youngest stable boy “m” finally got to experience his first play session. We’ve been together since January and we met through CollarMe. He has proved himself quite dedicated and has been very good in providing domestic services around my home, during the past several months.

He is about to turn 20 in less than a month; quite young for one to have discovered their submissiveness and with a sincere desire to explore it further. He is a total novice in terms of experience and as a result, I’ve spent quite some time introducing to the other various aspects of this lifestyle through various readings, teachings and discussions, in order to make sure this is indeed what he wanted…

Back in May, I was planning on doing a light introductory session with him before I left for Nova Scotia and he would leave with his family to eastern Europe for the summer; unfortunately our timing didn’t work out. So this would be the first chance we got to get together since then for a little fun. Since he was a “virgin” to BDSM play, I wanted to make it an overall pleasurable experience for him, so that he would have good memories of his first experience years from now.

I put on some of my favourite scening music in the background and I blindfolded him, in order to make him focus more on the experience. I started with some shibari bondage with my favourite big black rope set, binding his wrists and ankles. I let him lie there for a while and told him to just “savour” the feeling for the duration of a song or two, in order to acclimate him to the sensation of the ropes.

I added more ropes; tying his thighs together and adding an arm and torso wrap to “hug” him more, as I sensed he enjoys that sensation of firm tightness around him. It was cute, he had such a hard time trying to keep this big grin off his face during most of the session — he had been waiting to experience these sensations for such a long time! Again, I let him enjoy the sensation for a while before I removed the torso wrap — it left such a beautiful and exotic rope pattern on his back that I could not resist taking photographs of it.

I rolled him over on his front and proceeded to give him a very light flogging with my matched red floggers – nothing too intense, just pleasurable. He said he was surprised that it could feel a bit like a massage. I moved up to my leather cat-o-nine tails, which he found had a slight more “bite” to it.

From his back I moved further down to his buttocks and proceeded to give them a good warming, at first with the floggers and cat, and then with my matched red paddles. It was quite fun, as at one point there was a song with a great beat in the background that was perfect for paddling!

I decided that was enough for his first session and slowly started to wind things down, taking photos of his beautiful snakeskin rope marks as I untied him. I finished untying the last of his ropes and had him lie on his side to relax and begin to float back down to earth. He told me how wonderful the whole experience had been and then totally surprised and slightly embarrassed himself by cumming on himself right then. I reassured him that it was probably just a delayed reaction… and just to go clean himself up. He was grinning from ear to ear for the rest of the day and would undoubtedly be replaying this scene in his mind for the next while…

All in all, a delightful afternoon session to “break in” one of my “virgin” stable subs.

~ Mistress Jade Dragon

Review of Midori Rope Bondage workshop in Ottawa

Midor - Art of Japanese Bondage

Got so many stories to share from the past month — better catch up before the details fade away too much from all the other stuff that I have been doing…

At the end of August, I drove to Ottawa twice to attend some Midori workshops. One of them was “The Art of Feminine Dominance”; as it turned out, I am very much beyond this workshop’s level, but it was still quite entertaining with quite a few points of interest that were raised. In retrospect, I could have probably skipped it with no great loss, but then again, it’s sometimes hard to tell this from a simple workshop description.

I stayed overnight and visited with a very old and dear friend, who lives in the suburbs near Manotick. He allowed me to indulge myself with a very looooong soak in his lovely enormous bathtub. It’s so huge that I can actually float without touching any of the sides or the bottom! What a wonderful way to de-stress oneself after a long drive.

The other Midori workshop was an “Intro to Japanese Rope Bondage” that I attended with my Dom partner, Master Michael. I’ve been studying this style of bondage lately, but wasn’t too sure where I would rate in terms of level. As it turned out, I was definitely past the basics, so I encouraged Michael to take advantage of all the workshop’s lab time to practice on me, since I get more of a chance to practice then he does as of late…

We both thouroughly enjoyed Midori’s demo of her style of “rope dance”; which is much more interactive with the bottom — passionate, emotional and extremely sensual. She never stops moving and touching the bottom, caressing and stroking their body with both her hands and the rope. She uses the rope’s texture and roughness to stimulate their skin and overall body, from their crotch to their nipples.

This style of bondage is much more physically active then the more static styles of bondage that I’ve been more familiar with up ’till this time. Bondage had always consisted of tying “pretty knots” in very symmetrical patterns. However, Midori’s style of “rope dance” is much more “ad-lib”, almost always asymmetrical. And yet she has such magnificent control of the bottom’s body, because she uses the ropes to help her discover the person’s individual center of gravity and uses it to her advantage. She is able to manhandle and physically move around a person twice her physical weight, with what seems to be great ease.

This ad-libbing consists of very impromptu moves and ties, using the ropes as they drape, move and fall into place. It keeps the bottom very off-guard, especially if they are blindfolded; as they have a hard time anticipating the next move or tie, unlike regular bondage, which can sometimes be very predictable.

Although I was entranced by Midori’s demonstration; I was sure that a great part of it had to do with the particular sub that she had as a volunteer body. This bottom seemed to go very easily into “rope space”. As a result, Michael and I were both left feeling that “Sure it can look great, IF you have a rope-slut to play with…” However, our opinions were to change the following week when we attended another of Midori’s workshops in Montreal…

Master Michael picked up a copy of her new “Kink” book. I had brought my copy of her Japanese bondage book and she was nice enough to autograph both of them for us. We had also brought her a special little gift; one of my “kinky” italian charm bracelets that I designed (and for which I’ve been gaining a reputation within the Montreal community). I had selected a number of kink-related charms, along with her name “Midori” spelled out in gold letters on a black enamel background, and a pair of BDSM emblems and tiny handcuffs. She seemed genuinely pleased and surprised by our gift.

To be continued…