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Dustin Hoffman on Tootsie and Gender Expectations

A brief but incredibly touching commentary by Dustin Hoffman on gender expectations and how they can affect us, and those around us. Definitely worth the 3 minutes it takes to watch it.

I love how emotional he gets about this topic at the end of the video…

The Training of a Young FemDomme

This past week, I have begun the training of a new young FemDomme, Lady Ruby Dragon. She has been close to my family for years and I’ve considered her part of my Leather family, even if she was not a blood relative.

She has recently turned 18 and is now legally an adult and can finally indulge in her BDSM and fetish interests.

Tonight will mark the beginning of her introduction into the local kink community; as we will be bringing her with us to her first playparty at our favourite Montreal area dungeon, Club L’Espace.

More news to come…

The Annual End of Year Cycle

I suppose it shouldn’t surprise me anymore, but about this time every year, I get a sizeable upswing in profile views and contact messages through my profiles on various kink-related websites.

End of Year

One could easily assume that kinksters are facing the end of another year and looking forward to making new resolutions for the New Year — and that includes revving up their kink life!

In fact, on one website alone (Alt.com); I’ve received something like 5 times my usual/average amount of monthly views in December alone! This sort of thing continues for the first month or two of the year, as people start feeling a little house-bound and “antsy” because of all the wintry weather…

What does surprise me is the number of male Dominants that view my profile — I mean my profile name alone makes it pretty obvious that I am a FemDomme, so it’s not just casual browsing looking for a submissive. In fact, some of them come back again and again.

Perhaps they are not so “dominant” as they like to appear? I have had so-called “Alpha Doms” come crawling on their virtual knees, begging for play sessions to satisfy their submissive urges — but I have a hard time taking them seriously if they can’t even be honest with themselves and at least list themself as a “Switch”. And of course, they want this all to be “oh-so-discreet”! Seriously? Not gonna happen.

Have any other FemDommes out there had to face this “hidden” side of male Dominants — either in public or private? Please share your experiences, either in the comments below, or by sending an email via this blog.

Christina Aguilera goes totally fetish in “Not Myself Tonight” video!

Christina Aguilera

Christina’s latest video, “Not Myself Tonight”, shows her in a variety of fetish wear, ranging from more standard latex dresses, ballet high heels, wigs of all lengths and styles, all the way to rhinestone bondage and mouth gag.

Have a look for yourself:

An excerpt from a From a 2004 print interview with Christina Aguilera, quotes her as saying:

“If a lover wants to experiment with handcuffs, then that’s fair enough for me! What’s the point of holding back that side of your personality if it’s horny and turns you both on?”

Although she may not win a lot of fans in the mainstream world with this extreme video (by vanilla standards), I’m sure she will gain a growing following amongst the kink community!

So what do you think? Too much, or not enough? What are your favourite parts of the video? (Sane, respectfully-toned comments are welcome…)

Training the American husband

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I thought this article might be of interest, particularly those FemDommes who are in an extended relationship with their submissive / boyfriend / husband… I’ve been using some of these techniques for years!

So, like many wives before me, I ignored a library of advice books and set about improving him. By nagging, of course, which only made his behavior worse: he’d drive faster instead of slower; shave less frequently, not more; and leave his reeking bike garb on the bedroom floor longer than ever.

… I listened, rapt, as professional trainers explained how they taught dolphins to flip and elephants to paint. Eventually it hit me that the same techniques might work on that stubborn but lovable species, the American husband.

The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don’t. After all, you don’t get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging. The same goes for the American husband.

Follow this link to read the entire article.

4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party (Jan. 31st)


Year of the Ox

4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party

Saturday, January 31st, 2009

Dinner at Food Resto Lounge: 8 pm to 10 pm
Play party at the Loft: 10 pm to 3 am

The FemDomme Society of Montreal & ClubFetish.ca , in conjunction with the Montreal FetLife Munch group, invite you to join us in celebrating the beginning of the “Year of the Ox” with a magnificent supper munch and play party! Your organizers and hostesses for the evening are HeadMistress Jade Dragon, Ms. V and Maîtresse Mai.

Socialize with your peers, make new friends, enjoy a delightful meal and have some kinky fun at the play party! After dinner, our group will take a leisurely walk over to the “Loft Le Chateau” for the evening’s play party.

This is a pan-sexual event open to the entire community (18+ years, dominant, top, switch, bottom, submissive, slave, male, female, trans-gender, gender-queer, gender-fluid, straight, gay, lesbian, poly, etc.) . Our dress code even allows fetish wear at the restaurant!

RSVPs for the dinner and play party are separate and are both limited in number, so be sure to make yours as soon as possible to avoid disappointment. If we receive enough RSVPs, we even get to have the entire restaurant to ourselves!!

For more complete details (addresses, map, how to RSVP, etc.) please visit the following webpage:

http://clubfetish-fetlife-blog.eventbrite.com

I hope you will be able to join us if you are in the Montreal area! It looks to be our largest FemDomme Society and Club Fetish event yet!

September 23rd – Bisexual Pride Day!

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Bisexual_Pride

Since it’s inception in 1999, this day is a call for bisexual people and their families, friends and supporters to recognize and celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual community and culture, and the bisexual people in their lives. This celebration of bisexuality in particular, as opposed to general LGBT events, was conceived as a response to the prejudice and marginalization of the bisexual persons by some in both the straight and greater LGBT communities.

For female bisexuals in the Montreal area, there is a great group you should check out called “Bisexuelles“. They hold small gatherings at a café in the Gay Village about every two weeks, where you can meet, chat and discuss topics of interest with other bisexual women.

For more info, check out their online announcement list, or look for the Bisexuelles event listings on the ClubFetish.ca Montreal/Ottawa Calendar of BDSM, Fetish & Kink events. Their next event will be held this coming Thursday evening, the 25th of September.