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The Training of a Young FemDomme

This past week, I have begun the training of a new young FemDomme, Lady Ruby Dragon. She has been close to my family for years and I’ve considered her part of my Leather family, even if she was not a blood relative.

She has recently turned 18 and is now legally an adult and can finally indulge in her BDSM and fetish interests.

Tonight will mark the beginning of her introduction into the local kink community; as we will be bringing her with us to her first playparty at our favourite Montreal area dungeon, Club L’Espace.

More news to come…

A transition from friend to servant

tomo

Last summer, I ran into one of my old friends at one of the local Fetish Balls. It was quite a pleasant surprise, since we hadn’t seen each other for about 8 or 9 years!

We had originally met through an organization that I headed back in the early to mid-90s. At the time, this person became a valuable asset both to me and the organization because of their eagerness and willingness to help out in a volunteer capacity.

Fast forward to this winter and all the various difficulties and obstacles that I have been encountering in my personal and private life; I found myself needing to go out and be with my kink friends on a regular basis in order to keep some level of sanity.

My old friend had already a passing familiarity with the local scene, but had not been active in it for quite some time and was interested in getting back into it. I offered my friend the opportunity to accompany me to several local BDSM & fetish events and he gladly took me up on it. Although rather nervous at first, he did quite a fine job of serving myself and my best friend, Lady Katana, at a several outings to the Loft Le Chateau. He has continued to do so on a regular basis and has fit in quite well with my circle of kink friends.

It’s been a rather strange transition for me — to overcome the feelings I have for seeing one of my previously vanilla *friends* serving me. In some ways, it didn’t seem quite right. However, over the past while, I have managed to come to terms with it on a personal level. I looked back and remembered how much this friend of mine would be so eager to help me and the organization I headed. I started to really make the connection of how deep the need to serve was built into his psyche and that it had manifested itself even way back then.

Both of us were very different people back then, and our relationship was in a much more vanilla (if still somewhat unorthodox) setting. However, I was able to look deeper and realize that much of the same dynamic D/s was there, just couched in a different setting. I was a leader, he was one of my most fervent volunteers. I consider myself a FemDomme now, and I find that my friend is now of my most devoted servants. It’s the same — but different.

We’ve managed to spend more together as of late, and he has assisted me in helping to lift many loads from my shoulders, by taking on many smaller tasks that had been stressing me and that was taking time away from higher priority things in my life. I find it has really helped me in so many ways… So it is with great pleasure that I have decided to accept him as my personal submissive, servant and most importantly, as my personal assistant.

I have named him “tomo”, which is a Japanese term — it is most commonly translated as “friend” or “companion“, but it also has a dual meaning of “follower” or “attendant“. It seems so perfect and we are both delighted with the choice.

Thanksgiving weekend and munch time with old friends

kinky thanksgiving

On Saturday, I dropped by the Saturday Lunch Munch out in Lasalle. This munch is organized by Lady Renata & Laird Dave and has been running for 10 years now!

It was a fairly quiet one, but it was nice to catch up with old friends for a change. I’ve been stuck in the house for several weeks now, trying to let my back injury recuperate as much as possible; so as a result I tend to go a bit stir-crazy at times, missing all my kink friends.

The rest of my Thanksgiving long weekend was rather quiet, but I’m gearing myself up for next weekend, as I’ll be spending it with several of my vanilla friends at a local annual event — should be fun!

Montreal FetLife Munch and Play Party

Yesterday evening, there was a wonderful FetLife munch here in Montreal, organized by Ms. V. It was held at a restaurant in the middle of the Gay Village and turned out to be quite the affair with about 70 attendees!

It was great to see a lot of old friends — Sir Marc, Mz. Tina & Mr. O, Lady Evyl, Countess Alura, minimike, slave ricky, sub g, drakor, and of course, Ms. V and Master André. It was lovely to meet several new people in person as well — Agdistis, NaughtyTrix, deblouses and kinkygentleman, amongst others.

I only planned on putting on my black leather corset at the Loft, but ended up putting it on over my white blouse at the restaurant — much earlier than I expected. However, my back injury was starting to ache quite a bit, and that corset really *does* help support my back extremely well. I don’t think I would have made it through dinner without it.

There was also a play party being held at the Loft that night and a number of attendees from the munch came to the party as well. For several of them, it was there first time attending a munch or a play party and I’m sure it certainly opened their eyes.

slave ricky and sub g were sweet enough to arrange for a lift to the Loft’s front door and back again to my car afterwards, which was parked near the restaurant several blocks away. It certainly helped to make a big difference not having to walk all those blocks, or to have to drive around looking for parking in the rain.

I got to spend some time with my big-little leather brother Sir Marc, catching up on various topics of discussion. One of my former submissives, minimike was there and I ended up doing a light mummification & wax play scene with him. he was surprised and pleased to have been able to have a few new experiences to add to his repertoire.

I also got to watch a fucking machine in action; it’s made by a local Montreal kinkster who has been spending quite a few years developing them. They are quite the machines, with a huge range of motions, speeds and pre-sets. The company is called Hugher Technology, in case you’d like to check them out…

It was really a wonderful event and I am looking forward to any more local FetLife events that are organized…

Montreal’s International Kinky Festival, August 7-10th

International Kinky Festival

So as many of my regular blog readers have realized by now, Montreal is a downright kinky city — full of lovely decadent folk and plenty of perverted activities.

This weekend is an exemplary one, because Montreal is hosting the first annual International Kinky Festival; complete with plenty of great workshops, various parties and of course to top everything off, a grand Fetish Ball! Here are a few other hightlights to look forward to:

My amazing “little sister” Domina Jade presented one of her workshops last night, entitled Dirty Talking, which I’m sure was a total success as usual.

Montreal’s former Sex Geek Andrea Zanin, now living in Toronto; will be returning to our kinky city to present two workshops, including one on the Pleasures of Female Fisting on Saturday afternoon.

One of my friends from California, the reknowned sexual educator and author, Midori, will be presenting Scene Dynamics and Psychology of Rope Bondage on Saturday afternoon, and later on that evening will be doing a mind-blowing suspension show along with Kumi Monster, at the Dark Fairy Tales Fetish Ball, to be held at Bain Mathieu.

I plan on attending the Fetish Ball along with my alpha submissive toriko, as well as the company of Sir Marc and Lady Nikki; I’m awaiting confirmation from the rest of my leather family as to their attendance…

All in all, I am looking forward to a wonderfully exhausting weekend absolutely full of kink!

Review: May 2nd Club Sin Fetish Friday

Club Sin May 2008
On Friday, May 2nd, Club Sin was celebrating it’s 50th consecutive “Fetish Friday” event at Club Cleopatra’s here in Montreal. Quite an accomplishment as fetish events go here in the city.

Earlier in the week, I had arranged for my submissive “g” to pick up a few of the free tickets that had been offered by Club Sin via some of the kink-related shops in town. He was ordered to show up ahead of time and reserve us a good seating area, since I was also expecting a few of my other friends to show up and wanted to be able to sit together with them.

My alpha submissive toriko helped me to prepare for the night’s outing; laying out my choice of clothing for the event. I decided to have a bit of fun and dressed as a “Pirate Slaver Queen”, complete with a black leather corset with lots of silver spikes and buckles, a white low-cut lace-up pirate blouse that displayed my cleavage nicely, along with my trusty chrome handled flogger over one shoulder and an 8 foot long leather bullwhip coiled and slung over the other. It was all topped off by a superb dark leather tricorne hat that I picked up last fall. All in all, a quite striking and unusual outfit which garnered a number of compliments that night.

We had originally hoped to bring our good friend, the lovely Lady Roxy with us, but at the last minute she was simply too tired, especially since she had to get up early to work the next morning; so we made arrangements to catch up again later. I miss her warm smile and sweet soul a lot…

My lucky blessings from the all-powerful urban Parking Gods continued to hold well; a car pulled out of a spot about three doors away from the Club Cleo‘s entrance just as I drove up. The chances of that are extraordinary; especially on a busy Friday night in downtown Montreal!

I had toriko call “g” on his cellphone to let him know to come downstairs and give us our tickets. It was at that time that we discovered something that was rather upsetting. Apparently, the organizer had decided at the last minute NOT to honour the free tickets that had been issued and distributed, and instead to charge people at the door. I was *seriously* NOT impressed — those kinds of actions are the type of thing that can ruin an event’s reputation in short order, despite years of good publicity.

Anyways, I guess an awful lot of other people bitched and complained about the situation as well — because when we finally arrived to the ticket-taker; she explained that the promoter had backed down and that it would be free after all. Still, what a fiasco; especially since it was so unexpected — we’ll have to see how it affects Club Sin’s general reputation in the long run. As it is, I’m not sure I’ll bother going again unless I’m supporting a friend who is performing and has put me on their guest list; at least that way I can be sure, hmmm, or can I? :sighs and rolls eyes:

It was around 11:30pm by the time we got in and the club was already quite packed. was nice to see so many familiar faces including: Lord Peter (whom I hadn’t seen since New Year’s Eve), Sir Marc, Mistress Zyra & Malcolm, slave ricky and many more… My pretty boytoy toriko found and brought over our young lady friend of recent acquaintance; I have bestowed upon her the pet nickname of Tatsu (because she was born in a Year of the Dragon, just like myself). She was wearing a pretty new dark blue and black brocade custom corset that looked absolutely gorgeous on her, especially with her matching hair falls.

The seating that my submissive “g” had reserved for us was in the upper level and consisted of a rounded comfy rounded couch area at one end of the small play zone. It was a good spot, as it kept us from being crowded and banged into by the milling crowds. It was unfortunate that throughout the evening, despite having clothing, purses and toybags on our seats whenever someone stepped away to get a drink, have a dance or even use the washroom — that some of the more clueless or drunken males would try to plunk themselves down, hoping to get a good spot to watch some of the nearby play action or during the stage presentations. However, between myself and my boys; we managed to keep our reserved zone to ourselves. Hey, if they want a good spot, get here early or have someone else hold them a good seat; but don’t go stealing other people’s seats! Jeez, how rude!

Shortly after midnight, there was a video presentation to honour the birthday of a local fetish community member known as “The Richard”. Totally didn’t get to see any of it; since too many people came up to our upper level and plunked themselves in front of our seating area. So much for the good sight-line! When it came to the follow-up fashion show by Creation SIS, us smaller ladies actually had to stand up on the couch in order to be able to see above the crowd. What I did see was not too bad; however I would have preferred more fashion (ie: more outfits and shown more clearly) and less of the lengthy onstage fondling. I’m sure that part of that is due to a limited working budget of course.

After the show, we were joined by several friends, including Ambrosia Demise  who came over and we had as nice a chat as we could, considering the loud music… speaking of which….

One of the reasons that I rarely attend Club Sin anymore is because the music is simply too *fucking* loud! I actually had to have my boys dig out the “emergency” ear plugs out of the toy bag. Unfortunately there were only two sets; so toriko and I made use of them as we were both getting headaches and our ears were ringing. Even with the ear plugs, I found it loud and difficult to carry a conversation for any length of time. I know an awful lot of other people in the community feel the same way and won’t attend Fetish Fridays anymore for the same reason — they value their hearing.

One of the redeeming features of the night was catching sight of one of my occasional play parters, submissive “v” — I asked him if he was available and we proceeded to enjoy a relatively subdued play scene, because the environment was not the best for anything more intense or involved. I had toriko reserve the play area with the chains hanging from the ceiling (there was only one other play area besides that).

I had a good flogging session with submissive “v” and then had my other boys prepare my candles and some ice for some sensual hot wax play. I love to play with two candles in one hand; it doubles the drip rate of the wax — I’ve also been told many times that it does look rather spectacular from an observer’s viewpoint. Afterwards, I “shaved” the wax of his back with a shiny but safe-edged knife.

We followed up with some much-needed aftercare (for Me!) by having “v” giving me one of his intense foot massages, “g” being my “drink boy” holding my silver tray and drinking goblet nearby and slowly fanning myself with my chinese fan while toriko saw to the toys being stowed safely away. I had a good chuckle when someone mentioned how everytime they saw me, I always had so many submissives around me catering to my needs… I looked around at all “my boys” and realized that she was right — damn I’m a wonderfully spoiled Lady at times! I do love my life as a Domme!

At the end of the evening, as people were going around saying their farewells, I was joined by the sexy skin-tight catsuit-wearing Maîtresse Malycia; it was so good to see her again. She, along with Sir Marc, decided to join the boys and myself for our usual breakfast tradition; however this time we ventured to a quaint little 24hr café in the Gay Village, since we haven’t been particularly pleased with Picasso’s as of late.

As we drove there, it was quite interesting to observe the wonderful variety of people pouring forth onto the streets of Ste. Catherine as the bars and clubs closed. Montreal is such an amazing city; I love the diversity and perversity of it all!

Breakfast was much needed by all by that time; it had been such a long time since any of us had anything to eat. We got a chance to catch up and discuss a variety of topics, and best of all, without having to shout at each other! ;-) The sun was slowly rising as we left the café shortly after 6am and drove Maîtresse Malycia home; then toriko and I headed back to the West Island for some much-needed sleep.

Private Play Party at Maitre Ex’s dungeon

For the past while, Maitre Ex has been hosting private play parties at his excellent dungeon on the South Shore. They are usually double-night affairs, for both the Friday and Saturday nights and usually winds up in the wee hours of the morning.

The Friday play party ended up being on the small side; which was not bad at all because it allowed me to do some much needed socializing with my kinky friends and leather family.

Saturday’s was much more busy with quite an assortment of guests; some older familiar faces and a number of new ones. It was a shame that a few people I was hoping to see were not able to make it…

We arrived around 11:30pm (myself, my two submissives toriko & g, and my occasional painslut JF). It was nice to see several friendly faces were already there, so I “made the rounds” to greet them all.

I ended my evening with an hour and a half heavy play session with my painslut JF; comprised mainly of flogging with a variety of implements (including my favourite chrome flogger), some very intense hot wax play, alternated with ice play, then more flogging and finally sensuously scraping the wax off with a blade. The both of us were “flying” after that and feeling extremely mellow after it was all done…

All in all, a wonderful weekend of kinky fun!