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Brain dead and exhausted

After a week of preparations and packing, then a 12 hour drive by myself and working my booth for 3 days straight at the annual PowWow in New Brunswick — I am brain-dead and physically exhausted…

Friday was rainy when I arrived and the activities were cancelled for the day; but I still set up my tent and tarps. So much for rushing down; but at least my relatives were kind enough to save my usual space for me. Saturday was a bit better weather-wise, but still damp from the previous day. Sunday was inordinately hot, with temperatures soaring up to 38.5°C in the shade!

It’s now Monday and I am trying to recuperate somewhat before I have a meeting this afternoon with some of my web clients – they wanted to meet with me since I was in the province. I did warn them that I will not be running at full capacity, so I hope that I can present myself somewhat legibly…

After that, it is the final packing of the car and then another 5 to 6 hour drive to my Mom’s place in Nova Scotia, where I will be staying to visit for a few days before heading back to Montreal.

Happy Blog-Day to Me!

Birthday Cat for my Blog Anniversary
Today I am celebrating the beginning of my third year of blogging!

It was two years ago today, on May 8th back in 2005 that I started my blogging journey, and it is hard to believe that so much time has passed so quickly… It was Mother’s Day and I remember reflecting on what a totally cool Mom I have — and still have!

Please feel free to leave a comment regarding my blog if you are one of my blog readers. I’ve also added a new feature: a Visitor’s Map, where you can put a pushpin to show me your location on the globe. I’ve been so fascinated with the variety of countries that people are visiting my blog from, that I thought it would be neat to see it in a more visual manner, so please take a minute and put yourself on my blog map! (You can remain anonymous if you wish!)

And thanks again to all my blog visitors for dropping by and reading my blog on a regular basis…

I hate being sick!

Sick in bed

If there is one thing that annoys me more than anything else, it is being sick, especially when I have so many things to get done!

As mentioned recently, I’ve had a low-grade bug of some sort since early last month. Generally it hasn’t been too bad; more of a hassle than anything. However, these past two weeks it has been growing stronger and has kept me from attending several activities that I had planned with friends.

This week, I was supposed to drive down to the Maritimes, both for business as well as for pleasure. I was going to visit my Mom, and had hoped to attend some local BDSM munches in both Fredericton and in the Halifax-Dartmouth area. I had *really* been looking forward to seeing some old kink friends, as well as meeting new kinksters.

However, on Wednesday night this bug decided to send me into several coughing fits that were nasty enough to give me a nosebleed and leave me feeling totally exhausted. I was in absolutely no shape to drive the 9 hours or so to Fredericton, and would have been totally useless at the conference I was to attend. So, unfortunately, I’ve had to cancel my trip and instead spend the time resting and trying to let my body recuperate.

Of course, I have a hard time just sitting around and doing nothing… Thank goodness for my laptop and working from bed; as I will probably still try to catch up on some web-related design work for my clients when I feel up to it during the next few days.

My apologies and regrets to my Maritime kink friends — I hope to schedule another trip “back home” later on in the year…

Beverage of the moment: Jasmine Green Tea

Oscar Weekend Domme PJ Party

Oscar Awards

This week is the 3rd anniversary of my father’s death. I miss him dearly and I try hard not to be morose about it at this time of year, as I know he would not have liked that, he would have rather that I celebrate his life, not his death. With that in mind, I had my houseboy toriko come by to tidy up the house in preparation for a visit on the weekend.

So I was quite pleased when my dear friend Domina Jade arrived on Saturday. We spent a wonderfully lazy evening, watching my “Bon Cop, Bad Cop” DVD while nestled in piles of pillows on my waterbed. It was great fun recognizing the various landmarks from both Montreal and Toronto, as they showed up during the movie, especially as some of the Montreal ones don’t even exist anymore! Since we were having such a good time, DJ and I decided it would be fun to have her stay overnight.

The next morning, all three of us made a huge breakfast feast in our kitchen; eggs, pancakes and *real* maple syrup, hash browns and toast with really good orange juice. It’s always more fun cooking and dining with friends!

Michael had to run a few small errands for his Mom, so DJ and I continued to stay in and spent the afternoon in bed, watching Sunday afternoon interior design, house makeover and house selling/flip shows. It continued late into the night, as we also watched this year’s Oscar presentations. Things went extremely late, so I ended up driving her home at around 1 am in the morning. We both really had a great time and hope to do something similar again in the future.

Spending New Year’s with kinky friends

New Year’s Day champagne

On January 2nd, several of my kink friends and I attended a local “open house” being held at the home of a local kink couple. Several people brought various dishes to share and there was plenty to eat. It was a fairly quiet night, but I did have fun giving my pretty boy toriko a little challenge for the evening. I had him undress down to his thong and put my set of “spider chains” on him; considering that he did not have a collar on, I needed to drape one of the strands around his neck, which caused him to have to hunch over.

Then of course I gave him a few tasks to do, such as to fetch me a full cup of coffee from the kitchen *without spilling a drop*. It was interesting to see how my boy managed a solution by covering the top of the cup with a saucer, as well as using one under it!

Most of us left around midnight, and since it was nearby; I offered our home for my friends from Club Fetish (Sir Marc, Domina Jade and Lady Nikki) to drop by for a bit more time together. This was a bit outside of my comfort zone; as I rarely have people over. This is probably because my older sister is a bit of a “Martha Stewart” and has always impressed me with her extraordinary housekeeping and interior design skills and I ended up feeling that I could never live up to those standards and that my house would never be truly “ready” for visitors.

However, with the beginning of the New Year, I decided to try and overcome this discomfort and that I should instead try to enjoy the good times that I could with my circle of friends. I did explain this to them, telling them to be forgiving of the surroundings (which were still a bit chaotic from the Christmas holidays) — and so, like the great friends they are, they did, and so I welcomed them into my home.

tea and shortbread

I had my houseboy toriko make some tea for everyone, and we shared the delicious shortbread cookies that Lord Michael and I had made for the holidays and made sure that everyone had some to take home afterwards.

Godiva liqueur

I also broke open the special bottle of Lady Godiva Chocolate Liqueur that Michael had given me as a gift for Christmas. Between that and a bottle of Bailey’s Irish Cream, we had a great time chatting and sharing stories until about 5 in the morning, when it was decided that it might be a good idea if we all got some sleep. All in all, I’m so glad that I had my friends over and will make a conscious decision to try and have them over more often in the months and years to come.

A quiet Christmas…

Montreal City Hall in winter

Overall, it was a very quiet holiday season and I never really had any free time to put up my tiny Xmas tree or any of my decorations. My older sister and her husband often come to Montreal at this time of year to visit with friends up in the Laurentians. However, things did not work out for them this year and so no family visit…

Michael’s older brother came up from the States for the holidays; it was a very toned down Xmas at his family’s place, as everyone really feels the loss of the father, especially at this time of year.

I decided to spoil Michael and got him a really nice and comfy new computer chair to replace his old one; which was in miserable shape, with a cracked seat back. He got me some new RAM for my laptop (yeah, more power!).

I was lucky enough to receive some gift money; so I splurged and picked out a few presents for myself, including a new winter jacket, a new digital camera and several bottles my favourite hard-to-find perfume “Eau de Mer“.

I’m still in shock — Shooting at my old school in Montreal this afternoon

Dawson shooting

I’m still in shock at this hour; I received a phone call from my best friend — who called to let me know about this afternoon’s shooting at Dawson College here in Montreal, one of my alma maters.

My friend works in an office building across the street from Dawson College and had just come out of her building for lunch around 12:30 pm. Shortly afterwards, her colleagues and herself found themselves in a crush of people running through the streets, particularly young students and she realized that it must have something to do with Dawson.

Unsure of the situation, and because talk at the time was that there was still one or more shooters loose, my friends and her co-workers attempted to return to their office and were caught in a panicked mob of people who rushed into their elevator — which really did not do my friend any good as she is claustrophobic…

The strange thing is — I was going to call her on her cell phone earlier this afternoon, as I was thinking about her and something we were considering getting together for tomorrow… But I put it off, thinking that I should call her when she got home instead. I often get “feelings” about friends when stuff goes wrong — was it one of my gut feelings again? (I must have second-guessed myself again, when what I was feeling was actually right…)

My friend said that the cell phone lines were absolutely jammed to the point of being overwhelmed and no signals could have gotten through anyway. Several metro stations around the area were closed during the afternoon, as the cops continued the search, which also expanded to include the adjacent mall and the “Old Forum”, Montreal’s old hockey arena, which is now an entertainment and restaurant complex.

My best friend is safe and is at home right now, but she is still very shaken by her experience. I am so glad that she is okay, but it also leaves me wondering if anyone else I know has been affected…

I called my Mom in Nova Scotia immediately afterwards, as I know she would have heard it on the news and would be worried; she was literally about to call me herself when she got my call and was so happy to hear my voice and know that I was safe. I also spoke with Michael’s Mom afterwards to reassure her we were safe.

This, combined with some other not-good-stuff that happened to us here at home earlier today has truly left me shaken and upset. I thought I would be okay, but I guess maybe because it happened at my old school it really hits much closer to home that I thought it would….

All I can do right now is say some prayers that none of my friends or their families have been hurt, and that somehow we will all come out of this tragedy allright…