Category Archives: Rants & Raves

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Lily Allen’s sarcastic video rant

Definitely a catchy tune, all the while delivering a blunt and powerful message… people wouldn’t bat an eye if it was a man in the video instead of her.

Thought-provoking gender-swapped version of “Blurred Lines” music video

There’s been a lot of controversy over the misogynistic video of “Blurred Lines” by Robin Thicke. It has been blasted by critics as being disparaging to women.

Luckily for us, an awesome parody has been created by Mod Carousel, a Seattle-based Boylesque troup, and features new tweaked lyrics, new male models and new props.

Mod Carousel addresses some of its own concerns with the original “Blurred Lines” video:

“It’s our opinion that most attempts to show female objectification in the media by swapping the genders serve more to ridicule the male body than to highlight the extent to which women get objectified and does everyone a disservice,” the group explains. “We made this video specifically to show a spectrum of sexuality as well as present both women and men in a positive light, one where objectifying men is more than alright and where women can be strong and sexy without negative repercussions.”

Here is the original unrated version of “Blurred Lines”, for comparison:

Dustin Hoffman on Tootsie and Gender Expectations

A brief but incredibly touching commentary by Dustin Hoffman on gender expectations and how they can affect us, and those around us. Definitely worth the 3 minutes it takes to watch it.

I love how emotional he gets about this topic at the end of the video…

50 Shades of Grey: BDSM Book Inspires Record Sales of Nipple Clamps

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So, apparently the vanillas/mundanes who have been reading the horrible & trashy “50 Shades” books want to “emulate” the lifestyle, which has inspired a record sales of nipple clamps. Since the overwhelmingly popular pseudo-porn hit stores, nipple clamps have been flying off the shelves just like the book that inspired their use.

Seriously. Not making this up, folks…

http://www.policymic.com/articles/29954/50-shades-of-grey-bdsm-book-prompts-record-sales-of-nipple-clamps

The Annual End of Year Cycle

I suppose it shouldn’t surprise me anymore, but about this time every year, I get a sizeable upswing in profile views and contact messages through my profiles on various kink-related websites.

End of Year

One could easily assume that kinksters are facing the end of another year and looking forward to making new resolutions for the New Year — and that includes revving up their kink life!

In fact, on one website alone (Alt.com); I’ve received something like 5 times my usual/average amount of monthly views in December alone! This sort of thing continues for the first month or two of the year, as people start feeling a little house-bound and “antsy” because of all the wintry weather…

What does surprise me is the number of male Dominants that view my profile — I mean my profile name alone makes it pretty obvious that I am a FemDomme, so it’s not just casual browsing looking for a submissive. In fact, some of them come back again and again.

Perhaps they are not so “dominant” as they like to appear? I have had so-called “Alpha Doms” come crawling on their virtual knees, begging for play sessions to satisfy their submissive urges — but I have a hard time taking them seriously if they can’t even be honest with themselves and at least list themself as a “Switch”. And of course, they want this all to be “oh-so-discreet”! Seriously? Not gonna happen.

Have any other FemDommes out there had to face this “hidden” side of male Dominants — either in public or private? Please share your experiences, either in the comments below, or by sending an email via this blog.

New favourite song & video – “Fuck you very much!”

I came across this song from Lily Allen and the video that was created for it by a group of people from France, as part of the “International Day Against Homophobia”. I really like it and thought some of my readers might enjoy it as well… If so, why not help spread the word against homophobia?

Lyrics:

Look inside, look inside your tiny mind
and look a bit harder
cause we’re so uninspired
so sick and tired
of all the hatred you harbor
so you say it’s not okay to be gay
well I think you’re just evil
you’re just some racist who can’t tie my laces
you’re point of view is not legal

Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch

do you get, do you get a little kick out of being small-minded?
you want to be like your father
it’s approval you’re after
well that’s not how you’ll find it
do you, do you really enjoy living a life that’s so hateful
cause there’s a hole where your soul should be
you’re losing control of it
and it’s really distasteful

Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch

Look inside, look inside your tiny mind
and look a bit harder
cause we’re so uninspired
so sick and tired
of all the hatred you harbour

Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch

Typical letter addressed to a FemDomme

Horny computer guy

Typical letter addressed to a FemDomme, as found on a LiveJournal who wishes to remain uncredited…

Based on my own personal experiences on both ALT and CollarMe, it’s an incredibly hilarious and rather accurate view of some of the sh*t many of us FemDommes have to deal with on a regular basis from the “do-me” men on those sites.

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Dear Mistress,

Do me, do me, do this to me, do that to me, do this other thing to me, wear these clothes while you are doing it, force me to do these other things, and by the way I expect some kinky sex acts.

Here is a picture of my big hard cock for Your pleasure. I’ve only sent it to 6,342 women on this site so far, so it should make you feel really special that I’m sending it to you too. I won’t pay you money because pros are so selfish and demanding. You have to do *all* this stuff to me just because You like it, and if You don’t, then obviously you are not a “Real Domme”.

I didn’t actually read your profile and I could care less about what you are looking for or who you are as a person. I just want you to wear sexy clothes and do me. I’m married and sneaking around, so discretion is a must. I expect you to stay in your dungeon and never talk to me if you happen to see me on the street with my real friends and family. I can’t give You my phone number or my real name either. But I’m really, really submissive. In fact, I am your total sex slave.

To prove it, here is another picture of my big hard cock in bondage. If you’re a Real Domme, you will write back immediately. If you don’t write back, you’re just a fake, so fuck you, bitch.

Submissively,

Your Slave

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Seriously, I know so many of my Domme friends and I have received tons of similar letters in our in-boxes over the years — it seems to be part and parcel with being on those sites. It certainly wears thin after a while though…