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Thanksgiving weekend and munch time with old friends

kinky thanksgiving

On Saturday, I dropped by the Saturday Lunch Munch out in Lasalle. This munch is organized by Lady Renata & Laird Dave and has been running for 10 years now!

It was a fairly quiet one, but it was nice to catch up with old friends for a change. I’ve been stuck in the house for several weeks now, trying to let my back injury recuperate as much as possible; so as a result I tend to go a bit stir-crazy at times, missing all my kink friends.

The rest of my Thanksgiving long weekend was rather quiet, but I’m gearing myself up for next weekend, as I’ll be spending it with several of my vanilla friends at a local annual event — should be fun!

Unholy Harvest – Oct. 10-12th, 2008

Unholy Harvest

My dear friend Andrea, the former Montrealer now living in Toronto, otherwise known as the Sex Geek, has been mentioned in an article regarding the upcoming Unholy Harvest. It’s a very cool women’s only event which is happening this coming Thanksgiving long weekend (yeah, we Canadians celebrate our Thanksgiving holiday a month before Americans).

The Unholy Army’s early goal was to queer kinky spots by inviting a critical mass of lesbians to play spaces on quiet nights. Building on that success, St-Urbain and co-organizer Andrea Zanin launched Unholy Harvest in Ottawa last year. It’s a weekend getaway for lesbians and transfolk into BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism.)

To read the complete article and more about this event, check out the Ottawa Xtra online version: “Leather Dykes Revel in Unholy Harvest“. And here’s a link to the website for the Unholy Harvest; weekend memberships are $110, contact them through their website to see if there are still any spaces available.

September 23rd – Bisexual Pride Day!



Since it’s inception in 1999, this day is a call for bisexual people and their families, friends and supporters to recognize and celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual community and culture, and the bisexual people in their lives. This celebration of bisexuality in particular, as opposed to general LGBT events, was conceived as a response to the prejudice and marginalization of the bisexual persons by some in both the straight and greater LGBT communities.

For female bisexuals in the Montreal area, there is a great group you should check out called “Bisexuelles“. They hold small gatherings at a café in the Gay Village about every two weeks, where you can meet, chat and discuss topics of interest with other bisexual women.

For more info, check out their online announcement list, or look for the Bisexuelles event listings on the Montreal/Ottawa Calendar of BDSM, Fetish & Kink events. Their next event will be held this coming Thursday evening, the 25th of September.

Review of the FemDomme Society Chinese New Year Dinner


I recently spent several weeks of intense promotion and organization for this year’s annual Chinese New Year Dinner Munch, on behalf of the FemDomme Society and ClubFetish. It has been a rather hectic time for me, with so many last minute details that required my personal attention.

Unfortunately, on Friday, the day before the dinner event, my poor sweet alpha submissive, toriko, came down with hot and cold chills and a nasty fever of 99.4°C, (his usual temperature is 96.5°). I decided to drive into town and pick him up from work early, as he sounded horrible over the phone, with hardly any voice — I seriously did not want him to try to maneuver the public transportation system while he was in that shape.

I brought my pet toriko home and proceeded to tuck him into his floor mat at the foot of my bed. That way I could keep a close watch on him while I continued with various last minute preparations for the next day. Despite a few coughing fits, he slept like a log for over 15 hours; which did seem to help him somewhat. He did have a brief peak of improvement for a few hours during Saturday afternoon, but he quickly tired out again. My poor houseboy *really* wanted to attend the dinner and play party, however he agreed that it would not be the wisest thing to do under the circumstances. I reminded him how he had encouraged me to stay home for health reasons when I had come home from the hospital and that this time around it was his turn to take it easy and concentrate instead on getting well.


I originally started this tradition of celebrating the Chinese New Year about 10 years or so ago; with a completely different circle of friends. Gradually it came to include more and more of my kink friends until I decided to simply launch it as a kink community event three years ago. The beginning of the Chinese New Year can vary from late January to the third week in February; and I’ve found that often by mid-February most folk are looking for a good excuse to dress up and go out to enjoy themselves after surviving the holidays.

In past years, we averaged 12-15 or so guests, however this year we received quite a bit more interest. In fact, we received many RSVPs during the last week leading up to the event; however we had a few same-day cancellations due to illness, work, and family reasons. There were also a few no-shows, most likely due to the snowy weather, bringing our actual tally of dinner guests to a total of 35.

I decided to wear my new black “corset” skirt, with elegant ribbon lacing up the back; combined with my shimmery red asian-style jacket, as red is considered a good luck colour in Chinese culture. I wore one of my favourite bezelled black stone necklaces and matching earrings and a silver earcuff as an accent, and a long braid down my back.

I was blessed with the assistance of Lady Evyl, who assisted with checking in the dinner guests as they arrived. I chose to offer discreet nametags and colour-coded dots, for those who wished to self-identify either their D/s orientation and/or availability. Pretty well everybody chose to have one, as it made it much easier for remembering your neighbouring dinner guests’ names, which in turn made it that much more conducive to conversation.

I was pleased to be able to welcome such a wide range of guests, from Dominants and switches, to submissives and slaves, and all genders from male and female to transgender. Among the guests were some of my dear friends: Domina Jade, Sir Marc, Miss Kinky, Maddog, Lady Nikki, and of course, my housemate, Lord Michael. Several submissive friends were also there including sabine, slave ricky, pima and BackSeatBebe, as well as two of my play partners JF and Lady Roxy. Although my alpha submissive toriko was not there, my new probationary submissive “g” was there at my beck and call throughout the night. I was also very happy to see one of my old submissives, minimike, and we got to spend a little while catching up with each other.

There were several members of some of my online discussion groups from ALT, as well as some local kinksters from CollarMe. We were even lucky enough to welcome a few guests all the way from Ottawa! Everyone was very friendly and open for discussions both during and after dinner.

The majority of our guests decided to go for Hot & Spicy’s “Taster’s Choice” menu in order to sample from the variety of over 85 dishes available. I was truly surprised when my probationary sub “g” mentioned he had never been to a Chinese restaurant in his life; and so I had him seated across from me and made several choices of dishes for him to try (keeping in mind his dietary health restrictions).

We finished off our dinner with my now traditional and popular “kinky fortune cookies”; this year I even managed to have both english and french versions. They were a great hit, particularly with the guests who had never been to any of our previous Chinese New Year dinners.

We had managed to secure a discounted entrance rate for our guests if they chose to join us at the fetish play party that was being held afterwards at the Loft Le Chateau, located in Montreal’s Gay Village. It was a great way for some of the novices to be gently introduced to the BDSM play scene; so that they could observe, learn and ask questions. About half of our guests braved the evening’s snowfall and decided to join us for the night’s fun.

I must admit that I had a wonderful time at the Loft making use of some of my favourite playmates and spending time with friends, both old and new. (I’ll be posting more about my play party scene in a later post.) Several people came up to me during the evening and told me how much they had enjoyed themselves, both at the dinner as well as at the play party. All in all, it seems like it was a great success and I look forward to organizing similar events in the months to come.

** (I am still not fully recovered from my stint in the hospital ICU and I found it took me a full two days to recuperate after the whole dinner event and play party. At least I am aware of this now and can make sure to be able to take the time to rest and get some of my energy back when I attend events that tend to drain me…)

Another quiet Christmas

My houseboy toriko has still been looking for a new job once the older offer turned out to not be what they had promoted it to be. As a result, he has been getting a bit frustrated with his job search during the holidays, as very few companies are hiring at this time. I cautioned him not to worry, as the job market would pick up once again as the new year started afresh.

So, my gift from my submissive toriko was for him to stay with us and attend to my every need for two weeks during the end of December and beginning of January. He had already been spending so much time here taking care of me since my return home out of the hospital, that it only seemed natural to extend his stay to include the holidays. As usual, he slept on his mat on the floor at the foot of my bed, so that he could be nearby should I need anything in the middle of the night.

Christmas shopping

I didn’t have much shopping to do for the holidays; however I did make two shopping expeditions; the first to Carrefour Laval with toriko and my painslut JF and the second to Fairview Pointe Claire with toriko and our sweet playmate Roxy. Because of the holiday crowds, I made use of my three-wheeled electric scooter, in order to save my energy and not overtax myself. It was nice to get out with friends, but was still rather tiring because of all the chaos and noise. I was quite happy to pick up some nice geeky toys to spoil the big “boys” in my life…

For my house-mate Lord Michael, I choose a very cool set of remote-controlled “Air Havoc” helicopters; they are small and light enough to fly indoors and can battle each other with small lasers! These should be lots of fun to experiment with in the months to come…


For my submissive toriko, I tracked down an extremely lightweight Bluetooth headset to go with his high-end cellphone; they are quite sleek and it doesn’t hurt that they are also in my favourite colours of red and black. They allow him to listen to his mp3 library on his phone and go seamlessly to any incoming phone call. He just adored them!

Motorola ROKR headphones

I received some money again as gifts from various family and friends, so I picked myself up a few things that I had been eyeing recently; among them was some new aircraft aluminum bondage suspension rings, two large “panic snaps” and about two hundred feet of black and red rope including 50 feet of new “flat rope”.

suspension ring

I am looking forward to the opportunity of putting my newly expanded shibari and suspension rope bondage kit to good use in the new year!

Meeting new friends and old during the holidays

Ever since I’ve gotten out of the hospital, I’ve been craving to get out and be with my friends. Although it was only two weeks; it really felt like I was away for a whole month. The drastic change of weather certainly did not help to make the transition any easier either. So although I am still recuperating, I’ve decided to slowly start attending events again, as the socialization really helps to cheer me up.

munch cup

On December 12th, my submissive toriko and I attended the Saturday Lunch Munch in Lasalle. I hadn’t been able to attend it in quite some time, so it was nice to see the organizers Laird Dave and Lady Renata once again.

I had the pleasure of meeting Lady Evyl and mellian at the munch. Discovered that we were all a bit geekish at heart and ended up staying another two and half hours *after* the munch ended, just chatting and getting to know each other.

My submissive and I were planning on attending a fetish party at the Sky Complex later on that evening and invited the two of them, but they were unable to make it. Hopefully we will be able to drag them out again in the future to other local BDSM and kink events.


On Thursday, December 20th, my boy toriko and I dropped by the Fétiche Store for a little “Martini Party” that was organized so that newcomers might have a chance to meet some of Montreal’s more experienced community members. It was a bit late by the time we arrived, but it was *so* very nice to see Isabeau again!

While we were there, I had my beautiful boy-toy toriko try on some of the latex t-shirts from Blackstyle. Some of them fit his slender frame quite nicely, but there was one model that looked particularly handsome on him as it complimented his shoulders very well. Most of the shirt was made from black lycra with the front panel in black latex, see-through netting shoulders, with a pair of horizontal net inserts on the chest.

Afterwards, toriko and I went out to dinner nearby with ricky and one of his friends. I find it’s very difficult to go to restaurants nowadays; since I got out of the hospital, I must watch my food intake extremely carefully as I am not allowed more than 8 or 9 grams of fat per day. That’s really hard to do with only a restaurant menu to go by! The waiter however, was extremely helpful in helping to customize a dish that would work for me.


The next night, I attended Isabeau and Sébastien’s Fetish Addiction play party at Station C, along with my submissive toriko. Since it was the holidays, I wore my favourite red leather corset but I couldn’t find a santa hat that fit me in time for the party. I met up with my friends Domina Jade and her partner Master Tommi, Sir Marc and ricky. I got to give some birthday spankings with my giant spanking paddle to a friend of mine, as her birthday had been only a few days earlier.

I met a few new people; including a new female switch “J” who is very new to the community, as well as dark curly-haired submissive “b”, who is apparently an excellent foot massager. I was in the mood to play a bit but my toriko still had a touch of a headache, so I asked ricky to see if he could find a suitable casual play partner for me. He brought “g” to me, whom I had been speaking to earlier in the evening and we negotiated a medium level paddling and flogging. It did me quite a bit of good to get out some of my “play energy” that night, even though it tired me out quite a bit.

After the play party, myself, Sir Marc and toriko walked over to the nearby Club Sandwich for a bite to eat and chat before heading home. I think we must have arrived home close to 6 am and I slept quite soundly and took it easy for the next few days before Christmas.

Spending New Year’s with kinky friends

New Year’s Day champagne

On January 2nd, several of my kink friends and I attended a local “open house” being held at the home of a local kink couple. Several people brought various dishes to share and there was plenty to eat. It was a fairly quiet night, but I did have fun giving my pretty boy toriko a little challenge for the evening. I had him undress down to his thong and put my set of “spider chains” on him; considering that he did not have a collar on, I needed to drape one of the strands around his neck, which caused him to have to hunch over.

Then of course I gave him a few tasks to do, such as to fetch me a full cup of coffee from the kitchen *without spilling a drop*. It was interesting to see how my boy managed a solution by covering the top of the cup with a saucer, as well as using one under it!

Most of us left around midnight, and since it was nearby; I offered our home for my friends from Club Fetish (Sir Marc, Domina Jade and Lady Nikki) to drop by for a bit more time together. This was a bit outside of my comfort zone; as I rarely have people over. This is probably because my older sister is a bit of a “Martha Stewart” and has always impressed me with her extraordinary housekeeping and interior design skills and I ended up feeling that I could never live up to those standards and that my house would never be truly “ready” for visitors.

However, with the beginning of the New Year, I decided to try and overcome this discomfort and that I should instead try to enjoy the good times that I could with my circle of friends. I did explain this to them, telling them to be forgiving of the surroundings (which were still a bit chaotic from the Christmas holidays) — and so, like the great friends they are, they did, and so I welcomed them into my home.

tea and shortbread

I had my houseboy toriko make some tea for everyone, and we shared the delicious shortbread cookies that Lord Michael and I had made for the holidays and made sure that everyone had some to take home afterwards.

Godiva liqueur

I also broke open the special bottle of Lady Godiva Chocolate Liqueur that Michael had given me as a gift for Christmas. Between that and a bottle of Bailey’s Irish Cream, we had a great time chatting and sharing stories until about 5 in the morning, when it was decided that it might be a good idea if we all got some sleep. All in all, I’m so glad that I had my friends over and will make a conscious decision to try and have them over more often in the months and years to come.