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“Deliciously Disabled” Sex-Positive Party during the Parapan Am Games

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A sex party is planned for disabled individuals in Toronto on August 14th, during the Parapan Am Games which has drawn more than 1,000 athletes with disabilities to the region. But don’t call it an orgy…

“An orgy is when everybody comes together and has sex together,” explained one of the event’s organizers. “This is a sex-positive play party. The difference is that people can attend the event but they don’t have to participate if they don’t want to — they can be voyeurs, they can enjoy it like you would enjoy any other type of party … but then there’s the added bonus of being able to be intimate with your partner or explore some sexual activity if you want to.”

Deliciously Disabled event organizers, Stella Palikarova (left), and Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Event organizers, Stella Palikarova (left), and Andrew Morrison-Gurza

The event’s organizers say that while most discussions about accessibility for the disabled focus on physical barriers, it’s also important to look at the emotional and social hurdles that people with disabilities face, such as the widespread belief that they aren’t sexual beings.

“Access (to sexuality) is such a major barrier for people with disabilities — I don’t think there’s any other group in society that, depending on the level of their physical limitation, can’t even pleasure themselves sexually,” said Stella Palikarova, a disability awareness consultant.

“You can imagine trying to go through life being completely unable to have any sort of sexual relief or even to think that you are perceived by others as being sexually desirable or a sexual person,” said Palikarova, who uses a wheelchair. “That becomes a really major human rights issue for me.”

As buzz around the event grows, a spokeswoman with the Council of Canadians With Disabilities said the issue the party seeks to highlight is an important one.

“The reality is that we are sexual beings,” said vice-chairwoman Pat Danforth. “It’s an issue that remains seldom talked about, which I find quite bizarre.” Danforth, who herself uses a wheelchair, said she’s met a number of individuals with significant disabilities who’ve told her “no one ever gave them permission before to be sexual.”

“With this event, one of the things it will do is, it will give people permission to have an opportunity to explore their own sexuality,” she said. “If it’s in such a way that it’s demonstrating a healthy take on sexuality, then that’s a good thing. It makes people aware and it makes some people less uncomfortable.”

Event Details: The location is at Buddies in Bad Times theatre (which is fully accessible). and it can hold 125 people including roughly 25 wheelchairs. Tickets are $20 each. Personal support workers can attend for free, and there will be interpreters for the hearing impaired.

Tickets: Deliciously Disabled Party

Related article: Toronto club hosting accessible sex party for disabled people

Celebrating My 10 Year Blog Anniversary in 2015!

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Today marks the 10th anniversary of the launch of the “Adventures of a HeadMistress” blog!

Little did I know a decade ago that I’d still be online and sharing my views on the kinky life with others. I must admit that is has had it’s ups and downs; from keeping up with changes in blogging software, technology, the never-ending annoyance of spammers and hackers, and so much more — but I still find it quite rewarding.

I hope that I’ll still be around in years to continue sharing my blog with my many web visitors and readers!

Montreal’s Divers/Cité Festival On Edge Of Bankruptcy

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Founded in 1994, Divers/Cité was responsible for the organization of the popular “Divers/Cité Festival”, a celebration of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual and transvestite pride.

As of March 3rd, 2015, it sought protection from creditors, thus ending all it’s activities. According to documents from the Office of the Superintendent of Bankruptcy Canada, total debt amounted to nearly $ 214,500. A third of the debt consists of salaries ($ 71,500) while the rest is divided between 23 other creditors.

Usually held in the Village, the festival was moved to the Old Port of Montreal in the summer of 2012, a blow by Suzanne Girard, co-founder and CEO of the organization.

“Since we were on the dock of the Old Port, we ate all our financial reserves”, she had said in the” Fugues magazine. “The fact that it is a free outdoor event, it was never profitable.”

For an in-depth article:

The Day Divers/Cité Died

Facebook Will Now Let You Fill In Whatever Gender You Want

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Facebook’s official “Diversity” account announced another sweeping change to the gender selection on users’ profiles. Starting today, users of Facebook’s English sites can type pretty much whatever they want into a custom box.

“We recognize that some people face challenges sharing their true gender identity with others, and this setting gives people the ability to express themselves in an authentic way,” the unnamed Diversity account holder said.

This change follows in the footsteps of Facebook’s decision last year to expand its gender options, which were previously limited to male, female, or no response. Just like the last update, users must type their preferred gender descriptor after choosing “other,” and Facebook will suggest terms from its prior list like “androgynous” and “gender fluid.” However, if users want to type in their own descriptor, they can now do so—and then choose whether that descriptor is shown publicly, to friends, or privately. Users can also still choose a preferred pronoun: him, her, or they/them.

Previously, on Adventures of a HeadMistress:
Facebook Adds Numerous New Gender Choices For Profiles

For more details:

CTV News – Fill In Your Own FB Gender

Ars Technica – Facebook Offering Choice of Gender

Time – Facebook Gender

Retired Dominatrix Considering Outing Canadian Politicians

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Former dominatrix Terri-Jean Bedford has sent a letter to sex workers across Canada asking for feedback on whether she should reveal the names of politicians she claims have employed sex workers.

Bedford, who led the legal battle that overturned Canada’s prostitution laws, threatened to name naughty politicians at a Senate hearing last month into C-36, the law the Conservative government is bringing in to make it illegal to buy sex.

Releasing a list would “show the hypocrisy of those who want to impose their will on others while themselves engaging in the very behaviour they want to others to stop.” She also suggests that her plan would keep the issue in the public eye. “Nothing attracts media attention as much as politics combined with scandals of this kind.

Read the full article

Situation Update – Facebook backtracks on it’s “Real Name” policy

An important update on the Facebook “Real Names” Policy

“Facebook has apologized to the LGBT community for attempting to force them to use their “real” names on the social media service – a newly enforced policy that has caused uproar in the past few weeks.”

“The world’s largest social network has heard from people such as drag queens and kings, transgender people, musicians, and friends and family of those affected. They objected to the company’s move to take away their choice over what name to use on their accounts.”

Read the full National Post article: Facebook apologizes to the LGBT community

Celebrate the 15th Annual Bisexuality Day

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Since it’s inception in 1999, this day is a call for bisexual people and their families, friends and supporters to recognize and celebrate bisexuality, bisexual history, bisexual community and culture, and the bisexual people in their lives.

This celebration of bisexuality in particular, as opposed to general LGBT events, was conceived as a response to the prejudice and marginalization of the bisexual persons by some in both the straight and greater LGBT communities.

Wikipedia: Celebrate Bisexuality Day