New favourite song & video - “Fuck you very much!”
August 15th, 2009 by HeadMistress Jade
I came across this song from Lily Allen and the video that was created for it by a group of people from France, as part of the “International Day Against Homophobia”. I really like it and thought some of my readers might enjoy it as well… If so, why not help spread the word against homophobia?
Lyrics:
Look inside, look inside your tiny mind
and look a bit harder
cause we’re so uninspired
so sick and tired
of all the hatred you harbor
so you say it’s not okay to be gay
well I think you’re just evil
you’re just some racist who can’t tie my laces
you’re point of view is not legal
Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch
do you get, do you get a little kick out of being small-minded?
you want to be like your father
it’s approval you’re after
well that’s not how you’ll find it
do you, do you really enjoy living a life that’s so hateful
cause there’s a hole where your soul should be
you’re losing control of it
and it’s really distasteful
Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch
Look inside, look inside your tiny mind
and look a bit harder
cause we’re so uninspired
so sick and tired
of all the hatred you harbour
Fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause we hate what you do
and we hate your whole crew
so please don’t stay in touch
fuck you, fuck you very very much
cause your words don’t translate
and it’s getting quite late
so please don’t stay in touch
A transition from friend to servant
April 13th, 2009 by HeadMistress Jade
Last summer, I was lucky enough to run into one of my very old and dear friends at one of the local Fetish Balls. It was quite a pleasant surprise, since we hadn’t seen each other for about 8 or 9 years!
We had originally met through an organization that I headed back in the early to mid-90s. At the time, this person became a valuable asset both to me and the organization because of their eagerness and willingness to help out in a volunteer capacity.
Fast forward to this winter and all the various difficulties and obstacles that I have been encountering in my personal and private life; I found myself needing to go out and be with my kink friends on a regular basis in order to keep some level of sanity.
My old friend had already a passing familiarity with the local scene, but had not been active in it for quite some time and was interested in getting back into it. I offered my friend the opportunity to accompany me to several local BDSM & fetish events and he gladly took me up on it. Although rather nervous at first, he did quite a fine job of serving myself and my best friend, Lady Katana, at a several outings to the Loft Le Chateau. He has continued to do so on a regular basis and has fit in quite well with my circle of kink friends.
It’s been a rather strange transition for me — to overcome the feelings I have for seeing one of my previously vanilla *friends* serving me. In some ways, it didn’t seem quite right. However, over the past while, I have managed to come to terms with it on a personal level. I looked back and remembered how much this friend of mine would be so eager to help me and the organization I headed. I started to really make the connection of how deep the need to serve was built into his psyche and that it had manifested itself even way back then.
Both of us were very different people back then, and our relationship was in a much more vanilla (if still somewhat unorthodox) setting. However, I was able to look deeper and realize that much of the same dynamic D/s was there, just couched in a different setting. I was a leader, he was one of my most fervent volunteers. I consider myself a FemDomme now, and I find that my friend is now of my most devoted servants. It’s the same — but different.
We’ve managed to spend more together as of late, and he has greatly assisted me in helping to lift many loads from my shoulders, by taking on many smaller tasks that had been stressing me and that was taking time away from higher priority things in my life. I find it has really helped me in so many ways… So it is with great pleasure that I have decided to accept him as my personal submissive, servant and most importantly, as my personal assistant.
I have named him “tomo”, which is a Japanese term — it is most commonly translated as “friend” or “companion“, but it also has a dual meaning of “follower” or “attendant“. It seems so perfect and we are both delighted with the choice.
*** (So please, do not be surprised if you may receive a note from him on my behalf if you contact me. The majority of my kink-related email and other communications will now be routed through him in order to spare me the stress that comes with the usual overload of demands, especially as it relates to the running of Club Fetish and the FemDomme Society. It should allow me the opportunity to return to *enjoying* my kink life, rather than it being some form of stressful un-paid job.)
Training the American husband
April 9th, 2009 by HeadMistress Jade
I thought this article might be of interest, particularly those FemDommes who are in an extended relationship with their submissive / boyfriend / husband… I’ve been using some of these techniques for years!
So, like many wives before me, I ignored a library of advice books and set about improving him. By nagging, of course, which only made his behavior worse: he’d drive faster instead of slower; shave less frequently, not more; and leave his reeking bike garb on the bedroom floor longer than ever.
… I listened, rapt, as professional trainers explained how they taught dolphins to flip and elephants to paint. Eventually it hit me that the same techniques might work on that stubborn but lovable species, the American husband.
The central lesson I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don’t. After all, you don’t get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging. The same goes for the American husband.
Follow this link to read the entire article.
Defusing the situation when the cops show up at your kinky party…
March 22nd, 2009 by HeadMistress Jade
I found this helpful article recently and thought that it might be of interest to some of my regular readers. Here’s an excerpt:
Whether you’re giving a swing party, an orgy, a BDSM play party, a tantric ritual, or any other kind of event where more than two people are gathering to engage in consensual erotic behavior, it pays to think ahead.
Most sex parties get busted because of complaints from neighbors. “Let your neighbors know that you’re having a party that night, and ask them to call you — not the cops — right away if there are any problems with parking or noise. Then, make sure to tell your guests where they can park so as not to disturb neighborhood activity. Oh, and don’t forget to remind them to wear conventional clothing to get from their car to your house.”
Visit Carnal Nation to read the whole article.
4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party (Jan. 31st)
January 15th, 2009 by HeadMistress Jade
4th Annual Chinese New Year Dinner & Play Party
Saturday, January 31st, 2009
Dinner at Food Resto Lounge: 8 pm to 10 pm
Play party at the Loft: 10 pm to 3 am
The FemDomme Society of Montreal & ClubFetish.ca , in conjunction with the Montreal FetLife Munch group, invite you to join us in celebrating the beginning of the “Year of the Ox” with a magnificent supper munch and play party! Your organizers and hostesses for the evening are HeadMistress Jade Dragon, Ms. V and Maîtresse Mai.
Socialize with your peers, make new friends, enjoy a delightful meal and have some kinky fun at the play party! After dinner, our group will take a leisurely walk over to the “Loft Le Chateau” for the evening’s play party.
This is a pan-sexual event open to the entire community (18+ years, dominant, top, switch, bottom, submissive, slave, male, female, trans-gender, gender-queer, gender-fluid, straight, gay, lesbian, poly, etc.) . Our dress code even allows fetish wear at the restaurant!
RSVPs for the dinner and play party are separate and are both limited in number, so be sure to make yours as soon as possible to avoid disappointment. If we receive enough RSVPs, we even get to have the entire restaurant to ourselves!!
For more complete details (addresses, map, how to RSVP, etc.) please visit the following webpage:
I hope you will be able to join us if you are in the Montreal area! It looks to be our largest FemDomme Society and Club Fetish event yet!
A touch of warped fetish humour…
December 17th, 2008 by HeadMistress Jade
Shamelessly borrowed from Twisted Monk’s blog… Just my kind of warped humour, so I had to spread the word — enjoy!
(And I’ll never look at belly button lint and chopsticks again in the same light…. Ewwww!)
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