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Blog Birthday — it’s been 14 years!!

14th Blog Anniversary

It’s hard to believe that it’s already been 14 years since I began the “Adventures of a HeadMistress” blog!

Many things have changed in the world, and happily, kink is a bit more “out there” compared to when this blog started. There are kink social networks, discussion groups, forums and such — and kink-related gatherings, conferences and conventions have gone more mainstream.

Real life gets busy and has it’s own distractions; but I hope I will still be writing my kink blog for many more years to come!

House For Sale With Dungeon Makes The News

So a house in Philadelphia went up for sale yesterday that included a private basement BDSM dungeon, complete with kink furniture and equipment, and has become known as “50 Shades of Maple Glen“.

Philadelphia House with private dungeon up for sale

The US$750,000 house was posted on sites such as Zillow & Redfin, popular online realtor listing services, and quickly became viral (because apparently these things totally fascinate the Vanillas), however the controversy had the dungeon photos removed from many online listings.

However, the realtor still has the entire set of photos on their own realtor listing:
Philadelphia 50 Shades of Maple Glen House

To read the full Slate interview with the realtor who is handling the sale, and was the one to post the listing, have a look:

Interview With the Realtor Selling the Suburban House With the Sex Room in the Basement

For more coverage and several other photos, check out the Daily Mail article.

Sociologists Attempt to Reclassify BDSM as Leisure Activity to Remove Stigma

In a bid to remove the stigma surrounding BDSM sexual practice, sociologists are attempting to reclassify it as a “leisure activity”. Although scholars do not always agree on a precise definition of leisure, there is a consensus that leisure experience must be intrinsically motivated, freely chosen, and thus personally meaningful.

There is an incredibly wide range of potential activities, both personal and social, that if freely chosen and intrinsically motivated, can qualify as legitimate leisure, including all sorts of hobbies, artistic endeavors, cultural events, sports, outdoor activities, and social activities. The possibilities for leisure are seemingly endless.

The researchers, led by Idaho State University, wanted to build on recent studies that suggested instead of a traditional psychopathologic explanation, BDSM could be understood as a potential leisure activity.

Since this framing of attitudes had not been scientifically or empirically explored yet, the researchers decided this was just what they would set out to do.

Historically, BDSM has long been understood from a psychopathological perspective,” lead author Dr. DJ Williams wrote in a previous study published in the Journal of Positive Sexuality. But as this research showed that many people don’t consider BDSM as a sexual interaction, rather as a means of forming intimate relationships, among other things, this was considered a limited approach.

In considering the many academic and non-academic accounts of BDSM, our focus is to suggest that a broad leisure perspective currently offers the best theoretical approach to begin making sense of BDSM,” he wrote.

In the new study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Dr Williams and colleagues surveyed 935 BDSM participants who answered questions about BDSM experiences according to the attributes considered important for leisure activities.

The researchers suggest the results show that BDSM could easily be reclassified as a leisure activity due to the similarities between both like developing personal skills, creating a sense of adventure, and reducing stress. If it isn’t similar to leisure pursuits, why does it include words such as “play” and “games”, they posited.

Of the participants, whose ages ranged from 18 to 78, 90 percent said that BDSM gave them a sense of personal freedom, 99 percent said it gave them pleasure and enjoyment, 90 percent said they used personal skills, 90 percent said it was associated with self-expression, 91 percent said it reduced stress, and 97 percent said it involved positive emotions.

Our findings show, overwhelmingly, that BDSM fits properties of common leisure experience, similar to people who enjoy golf, swimming and attending cultural events,” Dr Williams said.

The researchers suggested that reclassification was important because if BDSM was understood and recognized as a “legitimate leisure experience with important personal benefits, similar to engaging in skiing, hiking, photography, or painting,” it could remove the stigma associated with so-called sexual deviance.

Source: Applying Leisure 101 to Simplify & Complicate BDSM

Kinky Sex Is The New Norm in Quebec?

Today the local Montreal Gazette posted an article discussing the growing kinkiness of Quebecers.

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While our province has always been known for its linguistic tensions, the study by researchers Christian Joyal and Julie Carpentier shows that we may soon become known for something much more erotic: our rather risqué sexual proclivities.

Handcuffs, blindfolds, spanking — Joyal said there is significant interest among Quebecers in engaging in those types of sexual activities. People aren’t just fantasizing about it, he added; they wish to do it.

Nearly half of the 1,040 Quebecers surveyed (45.6 per cent) have an interest in at least one type of sexual behaviour considered anomalous, like voyeurism, fetishism and masochism. One third of them had experienced the behaviour at least once.

Click here to read the full article:
http://montrealgazette.com/news/local-news/kinky-sex-may-be-the-new-normal-in-quebec-study-suggests

Article: BDSM Kinksters Healthier Than Vanilla People

Although the concept is something that us kinksters seem to have been aware of for some time; a recent study seems to have opened up the eyes of the scientific community.

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“Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don’t.”

“A new study finds that practitioners of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, score better on a variety of personality and psychological measures than “vanilla” people who don’t engage in unusual sex acts. A new study, published May 16 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, finds that, in fact, BDSM practitioners may be better off psychologically than the general public.”

Read the full article: 
http://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html

50 Shades of Grey: BDSM Book Inspires Record Sales of Nipple Clamps

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So, apparently the vanillas/mundanes who have been reading the horrible & trashy “50 Shades” books want to “emulate” the lifestyle, which has inspired a record sales of nipple clamps. Since the overwhelmingly popular pseudo-porn hit stores, nipple clamps have been flying off the shelves just like the book that inspired their use.

Seriously. Not making this up, folks…

http://www.policymic.com/articles/29954/50-shades-of-grey-bdsm-book-prompts-record-sales-of-nipple-clamps

Article: A Hush-Hush Topic No More

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

As BDSM and kink continue to go more mainstream, it’s coverage in the media continues. This time there is a fairly positive news article to be found in today’s New York Times…

“On a recent Friday night, a small group of people lined up in a cinder-block hallway inside an unmarked entrance to Paddles, a club on West 26th Street. Two men in their 60s were discussing real estate and a few women in their 20s were sending last-minute texts before going down two flights to the subterranean space.”

“Paddles is not another trendy table tennis emporium, but a “safe space” to live out erotic fantasies, specifically BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism/masochism), OTK (over the knee; in other words, spanking), and an alphabet soup’s worth of other sexual practices that, until recently, have gone largely unnoticed and undiscussed by the mainstream world.”

The full article at the New York Times: A Hush-Hush Topic No More