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Kinky Sex Is The New Norm in Quebec?

Today the local Montreal Gazette posted an article discussing the growing kinkiness of Quebecers.

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While our province has always been known for its linguistic tensions, the study by researchers Christian Joyal and Julie Carpentier shows that we may soon become known for something much more erotic: our rather risqué sexual proclivities.

Handcuffs, blindfolds, spanking — Joyal said there is significant interest among Quebecers in engaging in those types of sexual activities. People aren’t just fantasizing about it, he added; they wish to do it.

Nearly half of the 1,040 Quebecers surveyed (45.6 per cent) have an interest in at least one type of sexual behaviour considered anomalous, like voyeurism, fetishism and masochism. One third of them had experienced the behaviour at least once.

Click here to read the full article:
http://montrealgazette.com/news/local-news/kinky-sex-may-be-the-new-normal-in-quebec-study-suggests

Article: A Hush-Hush Topic No More

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

A film still from Kink, a documentary examining the BDSM website Kink.com

As BDSM and kink continue to go more mainstream, it’s coverage in the media continues. This time there is a fairly positive news article to be found in today’s New York Times…

“On a recent Friday night, a small group of people lined up in a cinder-block hallway inside an unmarked entrance to Paddles, a club on West 26th Street. Two men in their 60s were discussing real estate and a few women in their 20s were sending last-minute texts before going down two flights to the subterranean space.”

“Paddles is not another trendy table tennis emporium, but a “safe space” to live out erotic fantasies, specifically BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism/masochism), OTK (over the knee; in other words, spanking), and an alphabet soup’s worth of other sexual practices that, until recently, have gone largely unnoticed and undiscussed by the mainstream world.”

The full article at the New York Times: A Hush-Hush Topic No More

Updated Kink Guides

I just updated the Montreal and Canadian Kink Guides here on my blog with a number of new links, including several vendors of BDSM, fetish and kink-related goodies, such as corsets, clothing, toys and furniture.

Be sure to check them out and of course, send me any new Canadian-based kink links that you think might be of interest to my readers…

Enjoy, and happy shopping!

Article – BDSM Lifestyles: A World of Sensual Etiquette and Restraint

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This morning, I found a rather interesting newspaper article about BDSM — interesting because it portrayed it in a rather positive light for a change. Here’s an excerpt:

The high regard for decorum coupled with sexual exploration puts one in mind of a time where words like honour meant something and passion could be unbridled and furious. I will admit that the more romantic aspects of this lifestyle lured me in, and I had occasion to meet many wonderful people therein, although I didn’t indulge in play myself. I am not sure if timidity or a fear or realizing some of my fantasies was the culprit for my hesitancy. After all, BDSM is about power exchange, and I think I like to be in control far too much…didn’t mean it wasn’t alluring.

I suppose this was in part to the fact that human beings often tend to crave and desire the very things we cannot have, which is a part of the fascination. This idea is a key component of bondage and domination lifestyles as well, as this dynamic can create a powerful rush of emotion and arousal.

Why not drop by and read the rest of the article and let me know what you thought of it as well?

BDSM Lifestyles: A World of Sensual Etiquette and Restraint

Going to a Kinky Corn Roast & Pool Party!

Corn Basket

It’s finally the weekend; and we have been invited to attend a “Kinky Corn Roast & Pool Party” being hosted by Maitre Pierre and Mistress Catharine (best known for their BDSM-Circle website and their appearance on the Kink TV series).

Last time I visited them earlier this summer, it was for a BBQ and Pool Party on Canada Day weekend and I had an absolute blast, so I am really looking forward to it. They have this great little hot tub in their basement too, which is wonderful to lounge in after swimming in the pool…

Hope everyone else is having a great weekend too!

~ Mistress Jade Dragon

Review: Exclusive private Dungeon launch party

Bound and Blindfolded

Here I sit on a quiet Sunday evening (July 10th), propped up with tons of comfy pillows in my waterbed, sipping my Lady Gray tea out of my favorite porcelain dragon mug; quietly listening to my Zen music collection. I have my Tibook laptop with me, and two cats curled up on either side of me, as I ponder Saturday evening’s activities… and so I shall share them with you now my dear reader…

A few weeks ago, I had been invited by a well-known Montreal cross-dresser named Jules, to attend a very exclusive private party for the launch of a new dungeon. If any of you have watched the “Kink” series on Showcase, Jules was one of the main characters that they covered during their Montreal series, which was shown last year. In it, we got a partial view of the industrial shop that would eventually be converted into the dungeon that I would be visiting.

Due to a few last minute incoming phone calls, I was a bit late in getting out and despite Mapquest directions, got a bit turned around, but finally found my way to the address that had been indicated. So, I arrived at about 10:45pm. I was pretty sure that I was in the correct area, and as I parked my Saturn, it was confirmed by the sight of two latex & PVC clad kinksters getting out of their car and heading in the same direction. So much for subtlety…I had packed my leather corset into my shoulder bag – to insure a bit of discretion since it is in a predominantly residential area, secondly because driving in this corset feels like being in a body cast!

The heavy metal door seems quite imposing as it cracked open, to reveal two eager subs that greet us demurely. I feel immediately welcome, because one of them is sabine, the sub of Maitre Pierre & Mistress Catherine, with whom I had enjoyed a party just the previous weekend. We exchanged the traditional Montreal two-cheek kiss, and he gently asked “if he may” and delicately adjusted my heavy jeweled necklace to center it for me. What a sweetie!

I descended a small turning staircase and through a heavy barred jaildoor to enter the new dungeon. Wow, what a sight! The first thing that struck me was the sheer size of the room; it had very high ceilings that were easily 12-15 feet in height. The room itself must have been a good 50-60 feet in length and perhaps 20 feet in width. The walls were painted white and were lit with a few red and blue bulbs, giving a wonderful gentle illumination to the space — not too bright, but not so dim that you couldn’t play properly.

Just to the right as I entered, was a small carpeted sitting and conversation area, with a couch, a chaise-longue and a few wooden armchairs. Above it was a decorative shelf featuring some of Jules’ exotic shoe collection. To the left was a curtained area extending about 15 feet, behind which was a changing room/bathroom and some storage, and just beyond that was an area with a small fridge, coolers of drinks, and a table laid out with shrimp hors-d’oeuvres, crispy snacks and bite-size pieces of pizza, among other things. In the center area, just past the sitting area, was the first of several magnificent pieces of play equipment that were placed strategically around the rest of the dungeon.

As I waited my turn to be able to change into my corset and antique top hat, I spied sabine’s owners, Maitre Pierre and Mistress Catherine (also featured on Kink) and went to greet them and exchange a few pleasantries. I once again thanked them warmly for inviting me to their BBQ/Pool Party the previous weekend, as I had enjoyed myself immensely! I finally got a chance to change and felt immediately much more at ease. I wore my favorite black leather lambskin corset, with my “equipment belt” over it from which hung my thumbcuffs, handcuffs, and into which I had tucked my riding crop and black ostrich plume feather fan. I also wore a floor-length flowing black velvet skirt and my antique top hat — which I had trimmed for this occasion with a strip of red “vet wrap” to match the two red bands in my hair, which I had styled into a french braid and flowed into a long braid that extended past my waist, that was also tipped in red wrap, adding a colourful accent to an otherwise dark outfit.

I began to tour the rest of the dungeon, inspecting the imposing play equipment pieces in detail. The first was a large “inversion” piece that had two “stations” on it — the one on the end of the axle is a X cross, with holes for feet and face and a multitude of straps. The second is hung more in the middle of the axle and is a a seat to which a sub can be very securely strapped in, with their legs slightly apart. There is a large hand wheel at the opposite end, with which one can use to slowly turn the entire contraption, suspending and inverting the strapped-in sub. I got to see it in action later on in the evening and I must say that it is quite impressive. One heavyset sub had received a heavy spanking and flogging while suspended upside down, with her buttocks nicely presented at the perfect height. I also spoke to the two subs, who had each been in one of the two stations, and they were very enthusiastic about their experience. The heavyset sub has particularly impressed at how well she had been supported by the straps and mentioned that she had felt extremely comfortable the whole time — which of course meant that she could concentrate on the sensations being given to her by the Top. Most people had been holding back and simply admired the equipment, but once Jules had strapped in the sub to demonstrate the inversion piece, they loosened up and started playing with their subs on the various pieces of play furniture.

About mid-way in the room, there was a huge metal suspension frame, complete with electric winch to lift the overhead suspension bar. Quite a few of the subs present were practically salivating at the thought of hanging from it’s chains… Towards the far end of the dungeon, were several other pieces including: a very large and imposing wooden chair with rings and tie-down sections, a floor-level piece of furniture that featured many padded areas and supports to which a sub could be strapped in a head-down kneeling position suitable for spanking and paddling.

There was a pair of crosses attached to each other and leaning back-to-back for stability, one being a St. Andrews cross, the other the standard t-shape. There was also a long padded bench, a large wide leaning board with numerous cut-out sections and tie-down sections and lastly, a hanging wrought iron metal cage that resembled some medieval torture device in which a sub’s head and torso could be trapped with their legs hanging out of it. All in all, a very interesting collection of strong, stable and gorgeous play furniture, much better than anything I have seen to date!

All in all, I would guess that there was easily 40-50 people there at the peak of attendance and it looked like the “who’s who” of the Montreal kink community, many of whom were clad in either leather, latex or other exotic fetish styles. I got to see several of my kinky friends and acquaintances.

I didn’t have any of my subs with me to play that night, so instead I enjoyed numerous discussions with a variety of people, and ended up being one of the last to leave at close to 4 am (dawn had arrived). I did, however get a brief chance to speak to Jullianne (Jules’ Mistress and partner in the dungeon) regarding the possibility of reserving it in the future for a potential evening of fun for my new group, the Montreal FemDomme Society — that would be great! I’ll have to see how many people might be interested in such an outing and what the total costs would be to organize it…

~ Mistress Jade Dragon

Another kinky weekend is shaping up for Mistress Jade!

Jade’s flogger

Ooooooooooh, I am so pleased — this weekend looks to be shaping up to be another fun and kinky one!

I am planning on attending the fetish play party at Club L’Eclipse sponsored by Il Bolero. Never been to it before so I thought I would check it out for myself. My Domme friend AugustJoy will be coming as well as my male sub jon.

Saturday night looks to be a big one at Le Chateau. So far, here’s who is attending, other than myself:
– My Dom partner, Master Michael
– my male sub, jon
– Lady Katana (tentative)
– Lady AugustJoy
– Lady AugustJoy’s 2 friends

and from the ALT community:
– Domina Jade
– Masterstouch51
– Softskin4
– intrepid_fad

So we are looking at around 11 people! Wow, that will be a great crowd…

I mentioned in my ALT “BDSM & Fetish Montreal” group that I was looking to practice some of my wax play techniques and Masterstouch51 has graciously offered the use of his body. It should be interesting having someone else upon which to drip my candles!

Also, Lady AugustJoy and I were planning on doing a double Domme tag-team on my playsub jon, who is definitely looking forward to it, after the last play session we had with him.

On Sunday, I have my monthly munch to attend, so that will be a nice way to wind down the weekend with other kinky friends.

So, how do you spend your weekends? Do you ever get to go out to kinky events? Are there many clubs or events in your city or area? Are you much of a social person or do you tend to keep to yourself and private scenes? I’d be interested in finding out what others do…

~ Mistress Jade Dragon