Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. But Netherlands-based designer Mark Sturkenboom is bringing his sex toy to a whole new level of weird. The device, called 21 Grams, is “a memory box that allows a widow to go back to the intimate memories of a lost beloved one,” according to Sturkenboom’s website.
He’s created a special ‘memory box’ that happens to be inside a dildo. It also includes – more conventionally – a necklace and an amplifier for playing music that reminds you of the deceased. There’s also a scent diffuser and a gold-plated urn.
The glass urn allows you to place your loved one’s ashes inside — 21 grams of ashes, to be precise. It just so happens that 21 grams is popularly (and erroneously) thought of as the weight of the soul when it leaves the body on death, according to experiments performed by a doctor at the beginning of the 20th century.
Sturkenboom says he dreamed up the sex toy after noticing that an old woman that he assists with her groceries, who kept an urn containing the remains of her late husband. He felt that did not reflect the way she spoke so lovingly about him.
“In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself, ‘can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?’”
Read related article: Ashes in a Dildo
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Yesterday, I received news that the only other woman I called “Mom” (besides my own Mother) had passed away suddenly the day before.
It was a terrible shock, as I had been tracking her recent illness and progress via my friend’s FB statuses and text messages. They had done emergency surgery and installed a pacemaker and everything seem to be on the upswing; but she passed away peacefully the following day.
It’s been very difficult to accept, and in my grief I have not felt up to blogging very much; so you’ll have to forgive me if I go silent for a while…
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This week is the 3rd anniversary of my father’s death. I miss him dearly and I try hard not to be morose about it at this time of year, as I know he would not have liked that, he would have rather that I celebrate his life, not his death. With that in mind, I had my houseboy toriko come by to tidy up the house in preparation for a visit on the weekend.
So I was quite pleased when my dear friend Domina Jade arrived on Saturday. We spent a wonderfully lazy evening, watching my “Bon Cop, Bad Cop” DVD while nestled in piles of pillows on my waterbed. It was great fun recognizing the various landmarks from both Montreal and Toronto, as they showed up during the movie, especially as some of the Montreal ones don’t even exist anymore! Since we were having such a good time, DJ and I decided it would be fun to have her stay overnight.
The next morning, all three of us made a huge breakfast feast in our kitchen; eggs, pancakes and *real* maple syrup, hash browns and toast with really good orange juice. It’s always more fun cooking and dining with friends!
Michael had to run a few small errands for his Mom, so DJ and I continued to stay in and spent the afternoon in bed, watching Sunday afternoon interior design, house makeover and house selling/flip shows. It continued late into the night, as we also watched this year’s Oscar presentations. Things went extremely late, so I ended up driving her home at around 1 am in the morning. We both really had a great time and hope to do something similar again in the future.
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