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Sociologists Attempt to Reclassify BDSM as Leisure Activity to Remove Stigma

In a bid to remove the stigma surrounding BDSM sexual practice, sociologists are attempting to reclassify it as a “leisure activity”. Although scholars do not always agree on a precise definition of leisure, there is a consensus that leisure experience must be intrinsically motivated, freely chosen, and thus personally meaningful.

There is an incredibly wide range of potential activities, both personal and social, that if freely chosen and intrinsically motivated, can qualify as legitimate leisure, including all sorts of hobbies, artistic endeavors, cultural events, sports, outdoor activities, and social activities. The possibilities for leisure are seemingly endless.

The researchers, led by Idaho State University, wanted to build on recent studies that suggested instead of a traditional psychopathologic explanation, BDSM could be understood as a potential leisure activity.

Since this framing of attitudes had not been scientifically or empirically explored yet, the researchers decided this was just what they would set out to do.

Historically, BDSM has long been understood from a psychopathological perspective,” lead author Dr. DJ Williams wrote in a previous study published in the Journal of Positive Sexuality. But as this research showed that many people don’t consider BDSM as a sexual interaction, rather as a means of forming intimate relationships, among other things, this was considered a limited approach.

In considering the many academic and non-academic accounts of BDSM, our focus is to suggest that a broad leisure perspective currently offers the best theoretical approach to begin making sense of BDSM,” he wrote.

In the new study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Dr Williams and colleagues surveyed 935 BDSM participants who answered questions about BDSM experiences according to the attributes considered important for leisure activities.

The researchers suggest the results show that BDSM could easily be reclassified as a leisure activity due to the similarities between both like developing personal skills, creating a sense of adventure, and reducing stress. If it isn’t similar to leisure pursuits, why does it include words such as “play” and “games”, they posited.

Of the participants, whose ages ranged from 18 to 78, 90 percent said that BDSM gave them a sense of personal freedom, 99 percent said it gave them pleasure and enjoyment, 90 percent said they used personal skills, 90 percent said it was associated with self-expression, 91 percent said it reduced stress, and 97 percent said it involved positive emotions.

Our findings show, overwhelmingly, that BDSM fits properties of common leisure experience, similar to people who enjoy golf, swimming and attending cultural events,” Dr Williams said.

The researchers suggested that reclassification was important because if BDSM was understood and recognized as a “legitimate leisure experience with important personal benefits, similar to engaging in skiing, hiking, photography, or painting,” it could remove the stigma associated with so-called sexual deviance.

Source: Applying Leisure 101 to Simplify & Complicate BDSM

Remember Your Deceased Spouse With A Memorial Dildo

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Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. But Netherlands-based designer Mark Sturkenboom is bringing his sex toy to a whole new level of weird. The device, called 21 Grams, is “a memory box that allows a widow to go back to the intimate memories of a lost beloved one,” according to Sturkenboom’s website.

He’s created a special ‘memory box’ that happens to be inside a dildo. It also includes – more conventionally – a necklace and an amplifier for playing music that reminds you of the deceased. There’s also a scent diffuser and a gold-plated urn.

The glass urn allows you to place your loved one’s ashes inside — 21 grams of ashes, to be precise. It just so happens that 21 grams is popularly (and erroneously) thought of as the weight of the soul when it leaves the body on death, according to experiments performed by a doctor at the beginning of the 20th century.

Sturkenboom says he dreamed up the sex toy after noticing that an old woman that he assists with her groceries, who kept an urn containing the remains of her late husband. He felt that did not reflect the way she spoke so lovingly about him.

In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself, ‘can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?’

Read related article: Ashes in a Dildo

Friggatriskaidekaphobia – Fear of Friday the 13th

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Friggatriskaidekaphobia is a fear, or phobia, of the combination of Friday and the 13th day of a month. The phobia’s name origins include ‘Frigga’ being the name of the Norse goddess after whom ‘Friday’ is named in English, and ‘triskaidekaphobia’ being a fear of the number 13. It’s roots date back to very ancient myths in Norse, Babylonian, Roman and Christian history.

The Norse myth is about 12 gods having a dinner party at Valhalla, their heaven. In walked the uninvited 13th guest, the mischievous Loki. Once there, Loki arranged for Hoder, the blind god of darkness, to shoot Balder the Beautiful, the god of joy and gladness, with a mistletoe-tipped arrow.

Balder died and the whole Earth got dark. The whole Earth mourned. It was a bad, unlucky day,” explained Dossey, a folklore historian and author of “Holiday Folklore, Phobias and Fun”. From that moment on, the number 13 has been considered ominous and foreboding.

Babylon’s ancient Code of Hammurabi purposely omits the number 13 in its list of laws.Meanwhile, in ancient Rome, witches reportedly gathered in groups of 12. The 13th was believed to be the devil.

There is also a biblical reference to the unlucky number 13. Judas, the apostle who betrayed Jesus, was the 13th guest to the Last Supper. As for Friday, it is well known among Christians as the day Jesus was crucified. Some biblical scholars believe Eve tempted Adam with the forbidden fruit on Friday. Perhaps most significant is a belief that Abel was slain by Cain on Friday the 13th.

As to the fearful connotations with the number 13; numerologists consider 12 a “complete” number. There are 12 months in a year, 12 signs of the zodiac, 12 gods of Olympus, 12 labors of Hercules, 12 tribes of Israel, and 12 apostles of Jesus. As the number 13 is just beyond 12, it is “out of bounds” of the normal.

This fear of the number 13 is not bound by international boundaries; according to experts, more than 80 percent of high-rises lack a 13th floor. Many airports skip the 13th gate. Hospitals and hotels regularly have no room number 13.

On streets in Florence, Italy, the house between number 12 and 14 is addressed as 12 and a half. In France socialites known as the quatorziens (fourteeners) once made themselves available as 14th guests to keep a dinner party from an unlucky fate.

Many triskaidekaphobes, as those who fear the unlucky integer are known, point to the ill-fated mission to the moon, Apollo 13. On April 13th, two days after the start of the mission, an oxygen tank exploded leaving the astronauts fighting for survival.

Then came Jason. In 1980, the popular horror movie “Friday the 13th” was released (tagline: “Fridays will never be the same again”), a slasher flick about a series of murders at a summer camp. Apparently Jason, born on Friday the 13th, chooses that date to take revenge on oversexed campers much like the ones who allowed him to drown in Crystal Lake. Friday the 13th grossed almost $40 million at the box office and inspired a long-running franchise.

Friggatriskaidekaphobia is still very much alive — to this day, the Stress Management Center and Phobia Institute estimates that $700-$800 million dollars are lost every Friday the 13th because of people’s refusal to travel or fly, purchase major items, close a business deal on this date, while others refuse to conduct business or even leave the house.

And how will *you* deal with Friday the 13th?

Article: BDSM Kinksters Healthier Than Vanilla People

Although the concept is something that us kinksters seem to have been aware of for some time; a recent study seems to have opened up the eyes of the scientific community.

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“Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don’t.”

“A new study finds that practitioners of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, score better on a variety of personality and psychological measures than “vanilla” people who don’t engage in unusual sex acts. A new study, published May 16 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, finds that, in fact, BDSM practitioners may be better off psychologically than the general public.”

Read the full article: 
http://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html

Montreal’s Labour Day “Fetish Weekend”

Montreal’s Fetish Weekend

Well, for those of you who are not local to Montreal; we are now in the midst of the second annual “Fetish Weekend”.

Actually I got a head-start by attending some Midori workshops in Ottawa last week. Tonight there is a Midori latex workshop being held before the usual Club Sin Fetish Friday event; I am only going to to the Fetish Friday — I prefer to see the Rope Diva talking about rope, her talking about latex just doesn’t do it for me.

Saturday the 3rd will be the really big day for us. Master Michael and I have tickets to attend the two Midori workshops and play party at Le Chateau. The first is “Psychology of Rope Bondage” and the second is “Humiliation & Embarrassment”. We are hoping to go out to dinner after the workshops and before the play party; which should have a really good crowd that night!

On Sunday night, there is a “Freak Show” being held, but I’m not too sure I want to attend — the DJ is one that I don’t care for because he always blasts the music soooooo loud that you end up having your ears ringing. I really have a problem with going to a club and coming out with some long term hearing loss, so I will probably give it a pass… Otherwise, it sounds kinda interesting.

BTW, if any of you are interested in any of these events and are in Montreal, you can check them out on the Club Fetish BDSM & Fetish events calendar that is on my other site.

Anyways, hope everyone has lots of kinky fun this weekend, I know I will!

~ Mistress Jade Dragon