Monthly Archives: June 2006

Weekend Adventures – Dinner with a friend & my sub’s first munch

Last weekend, I was invited by a new friend of mine “J”, a female sub that I met a few weeks back at a local munch, to come over to her place. We planned to go over her music library — in order to add to my collection and have an even greater selection for when I play “iPod DJ” at some of the upcoming private dungeon parties.

I arrived there in early evening and we had a delightful dinner of fresh salad with balsamic vinegar dressing, baked tortellini, an oven-baked loaf and luscious mille-feuilles pastries for dessert. I really enjoyed it, and it certainly helped that I didn’t have to cook for a change.

We spent some time going over her music, but we spent most of the evening, night and even into the wee hours of the morning just talking. We shared many of our life experiences together and discovered that we have a lot in common. I ended up leaving there at around 7am!! I had a great time and hope that we get to spend more time together in the future.

When I got back home I went to bed to try and catch some sleep before that afternoon’s Sunday munch. My youngest sub “m” had finally agreed to attend a munch and I wanted to make sure I was rested up. I arrived around 5 pm and my sub arrived a bit later — he had forgotten it was Father’s Day and was trying to look for a card at the last minute. I told him that it was indeed important for him to do so and that he could be a bit late as a result.

The munch group was a relatively small one, considering it was downtown, as that usually attracts many more people. However the combination of the nice weather and Father’s Day undoubtedly had some of the regulars otherwise occupied. So, including a few late-comers, we had about 11 people for the munch.

Seeing as the waitress was there when my sub arrived, I had to introduce him as my “friend”, however since I had mentioned who was coming beforehand to the others, they knew what I really meant. He was a bit shy and nervous at first, mostly because he was unsure about his younger age, since he is only 20. Several of us reassured him that there are indeed many younger members of the local kink community; however it is very hard to judge who will be at any particular munch and that it is a pretty random sampling of age groupings. Sometimes it will be many more younger people, sometimes older, and most often, a general mix of ages. We also explained to him to not let that intimidate him, since everyone had something in common, and as a result it is usually pretty easy to get along, especially since so many of them are so friendly.

There was a couple who arrived a bit later who had a gorgeous little golden labrador puppy with them. The puppy is in training to be a MIRA dog; a guide dog for the blind; so part of his training is to accustom him to a variety of environments, including travelling on the metro and public venues like restaurants. The puppy’s name was Rainbow and he stole everyone’s heart as he was such an absolute darling. They sat only a seat away from us and I was lucky enough to have the puppy crawl into my lap and shower me with puppy kisses all over my neck and ear — it brought a huge smile to my face as it’s been such a long time since I’ve cuddled a puppy. (I know that at least one of the other women at the munch expressed a mild jealousy out loud, as it was obvious that she wished she could have been in my place… *grin*)

Towards the end of the munch, one of the people seated across from us, “Y” ordered this amazing hot brownie dessert with ice cream and whipped cream. He invited me to have a taste and I obliged. Oh. My. Gawd. It was like having a chocolate orgasm; so I caved in and ordered one to share with my babyboi. It was definitely an indulgence, but I usually only order a dessert once a month when I am at a munch — everything is fine, as long as it is in moderation. I would definitely bring a friend back to that restaurant to share that dessert once again…

All in all, my little sub really enjoyed his first munch. I was very glad, because I’ve been trying to talk him into going to one for quite some time now. He was impressed at how fun and low-key the whole thing was, and how friendly everyone was. So much so that he is now looking forward to attending more of them in the future.

We swung by my place to look at my “Greeting Card Box”, since he had been unable to find a card for his father at the store before it closed. So I found him a selection of blank ones to pick from and I did a nice calligraphic greeting inside it for him and he signed it. I dropped him off close to his home, so that he could get there by a reasonable hour to spend some time with his Dad. I found out later that his Dad *really* liked and appreciated the card, so I was pleased that we took the extra time to do that.


Since Michael and I are now both “fatherless”, it is a bit harder to deal with the whole Father’s Day thing. However, I found that by keeping myself busy the whole weekend, that it didn’t overshadow my thoughts as much as I thought it would. When I was reading through the various ALT blogs, I noticed that foulmama used the angel pic I sent her on June 1st, for her Father’s Day entry and that really touched me — it hit a soft spot and brought a tear to my eye. I guess I was just surprised to find my little “gift” of an angel pic come back to me in such a poignant and timely manner…

~ Mistress Jade

More black leather… Ummmmm!

Black leather couch

I kinda strained my back yesterday, as my neighbour’s hedge was really starting to crowd our driveway, and so I trimmed our side of it — as he had already given me permission to do so if it ever bothered me.

While I was at it, I also trimmed the cedar bushes on either side of my front entry, as well as the mock orange bushes in front of the house. Then I got inspired to use the weed-wacker to trim underneath the edge of the hedge, as it was becoming overgrown as well. So between all of that and then raking all the debris up, I overdid things a bit and was feeling rather achy last night; so I needed to dig out my heating pad to soothe some strained back muscles.

Today consists mainly of trying to clean out the living room, to make way for a new black leather couch, which is due to arrive tomorrow. I got my existing couch secondhand and I had it for a good 8-9 years. The couch was supremely comfy but had a very ugly fabric upholstery; which was remedied with the use of a nice golden velvet cover and some gold and black cushions. However, some of it’s coils and webbing finally bit the dust and caused a major sinkhole in one end — so it’s time to say a final “adieu” to it.

I already have two black leather rocking Captain’s style chairs with matching rocking footrests, so at least everything should meld together relatively well. I was originally looking at this other couch that was on sale at the same store, but when I checked it out in person, I realize it was covered in microfiber — very nice, but deadly in a house with three cats. It would be like having a giant lintbrush in my living room…. not a good idea. The leather should discourage any major furry deposits and I’m not worried about them scratching it, as I have the cats well trained to use their scratching posts.

The new leather couch is extremely comfy — which is an absolute *must* for me. I need to be able to sink into it and Michael needs to be able to stretch out on it, as he occasionally falls asleep watching TV. The armrests have built in pillow-like cushions, as I detest straight sided ones, as they do not lend themselves to curling up in the corner with a good book.

So, anyway — back to work on clearing out a path to the living room for the delivery guys… Better put on some good music to get me moving!

~ Mistress Jade

Another new toy!!!

iSight cam

A friend of mine came to visit me on Friday evening, haven’t seen him in quite some time, as he only just returned from Eastern Europe. We went and did some techie-shopping together and he bought me a new iSight webcam so that we could keep in touch more often. (His cellphone reception sucks in his neck of the woods.)

I had been wanting one for a while now, but kept putting it off due to the price. So, I spent a good part of the weekend testing and tweaking it, seeing if I could get it to work with other IM and chat systems besides Apple’s default iChat.

MSN is not compatible with Mac for video chat, so an online chatter suggested I download aMSN and give it a try. I’ve been fiddling with preferences, forwarding ports, firewalls and such — with still no success. Mind you, I’m trying to get it to work with the ALT chats, and fellow Mac users know how uncooperative ALT is for making their site Mac-friendly…. grrrrrrr!

Anyways, I’ll be playing and tweaking it more during the next while; so you never know — someday you might cross paths with me in the group chatrooms and maybe see me on my webcam…

~ Mistress Jade

Two days — and such a contrast between them…

Afternoon Tea

June 6th would have been my Dad’s 85th birthday. I miss him so much…

The loss of Michael’s Dad has brought many of the same feelings of loss from when my own Dad passed away, a little over two years ago. So many things remind me of them both…

I busied my mind with many little things during the day, to try and keep it occupied, so that I would not be dragged down and feel miserable.


My sleep cycle is screwed up again, so in an attempt to reverse it, I stayed up all night and all day.

When dawn arrived on June 7th, I was reminded that it was the 10th anniversary of my most famous and award-winning website. (I’d mention it, but it would be a dead give-away and I still have to be careful of my vanilla identity, however some of my local kink friends are aware of it.)

For the longest time, I had wanted this day to be a real celebration of that achievement, however, after how melancholy I was feeling the day before, I decided that I needed time for me; and that it was only a website, and a day here or there was not going to be a big thing in the big scheme of things. Concentrate on the “here and now” is how I get by sometimes nowaday…

I was feeling rather energetic as the dawn arose and I got some small tasks out of the way. The front lawn was getting rather tall and I decided that I would rather do it myself rather than wait forever for a certain someone else to maybe get around to doing it.

Of course, I had to wait until a more reasonable hour to start mowing, so I wouldn’t freak the neighbours. Luckily it wasn’t too warm out and I had my iPod and my speacial sound-cancelling headphones to make it slightly more enjoyable. At least I got a good work-out from it.

Afterwards, I gave my Saturn a good washing-down, as it had been overdue, then hosed the driveway down of dust and grass trimmings that had been blown over by the breeze. I also hosed down my front patio of some of the leftover potting soil from when I did some transplanting last week.

I then went on to improving the little corner I had set up for myself — installing a bigger and more comfy cushion on my chaise longue and bringing out a tall stool to act as a small tabletop. I brought out my new iPod, this time with my tiny black Sony speakers and chose one of my classical music playlists. I also prepared myself an early light brunch composed of a sandwich, a delicate imported Italian chocolate croissant and a big mug of Earl Grey tea. Last, but not least was my camp hat and my new paperback.

For the longest time, I just enjoyed the sounds of the myriad of songbirds that frequent my neighbourhood, with my sunhat drawn down to shade my eyes, since the sun was now starting to come over the house into the front yard. My oldest cat, Tigger, kept me company — she’s been enjoying being allowed outside a lot more this year, since she has been really good at sticking close to the house. (She was raised as an indoor cat and I’ve never wanted to take chances with her safety.)

After resting for a while, I decided to start on my new book, which I had recently bought on sale – “The DaVinci Code”. I had wanted to read it quite a while ago, but wasn’t prepared to pay hardcover prices for it. I spent the rest of the afternoon reading through the first half of the book, with a background of light classical music, until I was too exhausted to stay awake any longer.

I slept for at least 12 hours and awoke early this morning, at around 6am. I decided to finish reading the rest of my book, which turned out to be a fairly interesting and fast-paced mystery novel. (I’m really not into traditional religions, so the book’s basic premise did not cause me any major spiritual contentions.)


I got an email from my “babyboi” sub today, he’s recently finished school and might be available this weekend. That would be nice, it’s been too long since we’ve spent time together and it would do us both some good. Besides, the back lawn still needs mowing!

~ Mistress Jade

Lots of kink activities in May…

Black iPod

I attended a private dungeon party in early May and it was quite enjoyable as many of my kink friends were also in attendance. Daemonica was also able to join me and it was her first time at the dungeon. I also got to spend some time hanging out with my good friends Domina Jade and Sir Marc.

I wore a new outfit, a sort of “Naughty School Mistress” look; I wore my long hair up in a bun, with a dark navy pleated skirt, short leather “granny boots” with a square heel, black pleated blouse with a long pearl necklace and jeweled brooch, and to complete the look, I had a wooden yardstick. (Since then, I’ve picked up a small pair of reading glasses so that I can do that intimidating “over the glasses” stare.) My yardstick proved extremely popular as many people asked me where they could get one too!


On May 21st, I attended the Knotty munch at Moe’s Deli out near the Olympic Stadium. I wasn’t too sure I was going to make it at first because I was feeling a bit under the weather and rather tired, as the almost constant rain for two weeks was starting to wear on my joints a lot.

There were a good 22-25 people in attendance, which was a surprise to some — but I figured that the rain had deterred many from driving up north for the Victoria Day long weekend.

I had a new dinner companion, a sweet lady nicknamed “Jools”. Since she was relatively new to the Montreal scene, I invited her to join me the following weekend at the big supper munch being organized by Maitre Pierre and Mistress Catharine.


The supper munch on May 27th was quite successful and there must have been at least 40 odd people in attendance. Jools arrived at almost the same time as I did and some people were nice enough to shift around so that we could sit together, as well as being near to my friends Sir Marc and Domina Jade. A few seats down were Cloud and Mistress Lisa, and even farther down were Lady Kate and her male sub, and ever farther down I found Maddog.

Many of us were invited to a fairly impromptu after dinner get-together at a nearby friend’s dungeon. Although I brought my corset, I was feeling so comfortable in my black pants, spaghetti strap tank top and emerald green silk shirt that I decided not to change. I was lucky enough to commandeer the big chaise lounge for most of the night, even though I did share it with several others. It is one of my favourite seats there because it allows me to tuck my feet up underneath me, or to stretch them out.

I shared some of my foot massage skills with the “Other Jade” and she seemed to enjoy it because my tiny fingers can manipulate her tiny toes much better than any man’s. I was lucky enough to benefit from Maddog’s foot massage skills, although he has a slightly heavier touch than I am used to. I did return the favour with some back scritchies, which seemed appreciated as well.

Although there was a bit of playing that went on, most of my core circle of friends lounged around and talked the night away about a multitude of topics. I had brought my new black video iPod with me and shared a few of my latest video finds. Several of them had Domina Jade giggling and laughing out loud.

I noticed the dungeon finally has a small AM/FM/CD stereo, so I also discussed the idea of bringing my new iPod to next weekend’s dungeon party and playing iPod DJ for the night, so we could do without the radio announcer and commercials from the local radio station. Besides, I could bring much more appropriate music for our overall tastes. I have an FM transmitter for my iPod that I use for my car, so I won’t have to fiddle with hooking up any other cables — I prefer to keep things simple whenever possible.

I was considering making 3-4 playlists for the evening. The first playlist will be fairly upbeat but lighter music and last an hour or two, as people are trickling in and greeting each other and begin to socialize. The second will have a wider range but will be more upbeat and faster paced, ranging from pop, R&B and some classic rock. The third playlist will go in effect around midnight and will be more geared towards scene music, often with a heavier beat and more moody feel. The fourth and last playlist will lighten up to more mellow “aftercare” type music for the last half hour to 45 minutes while people are wrapping up and getting ready to head out — which is often around 3 to 4 am. In all, I’m probably looking at anywhere from 5 to 6 hours of music — which should be no problem since I used to program for a 6 hour radio shift.

*** In case you are wondering, I used to work as a professional DJ at a radio station in the Maritimes, at the tender age of 16. From what I understand, I was the youngest professionally employed radio announcer in the province, if not the entire country at the time (early 80’s). I really *loved* that job and I was planning on going to Broadcast School, but just before I finished high school, the CBC did massive layoffs of staff across Canada and I realized the job market would be saturated for years to come, so I decided against it. Still, it was a fabulous learning experience and it opened a lot of other opportunities for me through the years. I still miss working with music, but the field has changed so much since those days… So it will be kind of fun to play DJ once again after all these years!

So, what are some of your music favourites? Do you have any music genres, artists or albums that you prefer to play or scene to? Any suggestions of anything that is available on iTunes? Or, if you are local, do you have any music you’d like to trade? (Remember, in Canada it is *not* illegal to trade music!)

Looking forward to reading some of your musical suggestions,

~ Mistress Jade

Catching up — funerals, munches and Beavertails…

Hooker’s Beavertails

Just relaxing in bed with my laptop, some nice quiet music and a cup of tea. I’ve been wanting to tackle my blog, but so much has happened that in some ways I didn’t know where to begin; so I guess I’ll just cover what I can…


Shortly after the funeral in mid-April, I ended up going to the Knotty munch because it was on the rotation that brought it closest to my home in the West Island. I wasn’t sure that I was up to it and hadn’t RSVP’ed but figured that I’d drop in anyway. I am so glad I did; I was able to spend time with many of my kink friends and it did me so much good.

Another friend of mine at the munch, Daemonica, had lost her grandmother only a few days before Michael’s father passed away. As a result, there was some discussions regarding losing family and friends, as well as death-related customs and traditions amongst our respective cultures and communities. It was very interesting and reassuring, all at the same time.

(Poor Maddog, he sat beside me during the munch and I’m afraid I really bent his ear during the latter part of the evening, but it felt so good to have a friend to talk to.) All in all, it was a good outing and I’ve been making an effort to go out and be with my friends again, because it has helped me to cope with the loss and loneliness…


My mother came to Montreal from the Maritimes for the funeral and stayed for about a week and a half; she headed back home but was back again in early May as she had a conference to attend in Ottawa. I drove her there and back and we were able to spend part of an afternoon enjoying the Ottawa Tulip Festival. My family lived in Ottawa when I was very young and so my Mom and I drove back to our old neighbourhood to see our old house and how everything had changed; it was quite a fun outing for the both of us.

We wrapped it up by going to the old Bywater Market and I picked up some “Hooker’s Beavertail” pastries for us. (See blog photo) It certainly gives a whole new meaning to the expression “Getting a piece of tail”…

Got some beautiful photos to add to my portfolio, including some great macros shots of the tulip blossoms. Maybe I’ll post some of them to share with you if any of you are interested…

~ Mistress Jade