Monthly Archives: October 2007

New addition to my submissive stable


Several weeks ago, I had been contacted via CollarMe by a young local male submissive. By his message, I could tell that he had actually read through my *entire* profile, and had digilently answered the preliminary questions that are found at the end of my profile.

Even though he is quite young by general kink community standards (21 years old), I found him to be refreshingly honest and mature in both his replies to my questions, as well as his general communications. Based on his overall application and respectful attitude, I decided to schedule an interview with him. Unfortunately my scheduling caused a delay of a few weeks before we were finally able to work something out to our mutual convenience.

It’s very common for many submissives to be terribly nervous when they meet with me for their personal interview; no matter what their age… It seems that many are intimidated by my title of HeadMistress of the FemDomme Society, combined with the fact that I am rather visible in the local BDSM/kink/fetish community, both in online groups/lists, as well as in real life.

Although I can most definitely be strict and in control at times, my everyday “style” of dominance is generally a more relaxed one. I do not want a household where I need to “crack the whip” all the time to keep things under control. As a result, when I meet with prospective applicants for a personal interview — I also respect a submissive as being another human being. They may *be* a submissive — but they are not yet *my* submissive. This often surprises them, but I clarify that this is an *interview*, they are here for me to get a sense of them as a person — it is not a “session”.

If successful, this young man would be in frequent contact with my alpha submissive, toriko; so I decided to bring toriko along with me so that the “new boy” would be able to meet him as well. It was my belief that it might also help to put him at ease, both during the interview, as well as being able to know to whom he would also be dealing with other than myself, in terms of some of his future training.

The three of us broke the ice by chatting lightly about various topics while we waited for our tea and munchies to arrive. I briefly went over some of the points covered in his written application for some clarifications. Although obviously still a bit nervous, he expressed himself quite well, all while being respectful and polite.

This young man seems to have much more of an interest in being a “service submissive” rather than a more D/s relationship; which is fine with me, since that is one of the areas I had been trying to fill. I don’t mind training a novice submissive, as long as they are truly willing to learn, are dedicated enough to stick with it, and are honest and loyal.

I decided to consider him under a probationary status, to see how things might work out between us. We then discussed the possibility of this potential “new houseboy” attending Isabeau’s fabulous Fetish Ball with myself and my kinky entourage, as it was to be held the next evening. That, however, is a story that will have to wait for another entry…

ADDENDUM: Only a few days after the Fetish Ball, kenjiro lost an immediate family member through a fatal automobile accident. It has been agreed upon that he shall be taking an indefinite leave of absence in order to be able to take the time to come to terms with this tragedy.

Catching up with my kinky life…

Strap-on Gangbang

It’s been really frustrating that my health has continued to give me problems since the beginning of September, shortly after the Fetish Weekend. There is *so* much that I want to do or get done and it just seems that I am either not feeling well enough, exhausted, or in the process of recuperating…

As a result, I’m currently backlogged on my kinky correspondence via email as well as through the many online sites where I maintain a presence. I also need to re-schedule several interviews from late summer with prospective submissives for my stable. A few of them seem to have some potential, so I am looking forward to seeing how well they “pan out” in person…

I was asked if I could organize a very private “strap-on gang-bang” for some of my FemDomme friends with a handsome blond male submissive from out-of-town. Unfortunately, the way I’ve been feeling, I haven’t even had the time to look into preliminary logistics for this one… and trust me, I *really* want this particular event to get off the ground!!

I have been trying to take good care of myself and to save my energy so that I don’t over-extend myself. My boy toriko has been making sure that I continue to eat well; as my appetite has not always been the best; he also encourages me to get enough rest, because my sleep cycle has been screwed up as of late.

I have had occasional days where I have felt slightly better; so I’ve been trying to take advantage of them in small ways. I caught up on a few movies that I had wanted to see at the Dollar Cinema — some flicks are still best seen on the big screen, even if I plan to pick up the DVD when it comes out.

I was also feeling well enough last weekend to attend a small local fannish event. It was really great to connect with many of my out-of-town friends, whom I had not seen in years! Strangely enough, one of the most surprising connections was with my godchild, whom I have not seen in person since he was around 5-6 years old. His sweetheart of a mother had made arrangements for him to make a surprise visit to see me on Saturday — that totally blew me away as I had really not expected it. The whole experience brought back such intense memories from another time in my life — luckily, they were associated with some of the best parts of those memories and we were able to share some great stories over dinner.

Because my godson is very interested in various body modifications; the discussions eventually went into the direction of fetish & kink… (gee, what a surprise, hmmm?) One thing led to another and he and his lovely lady friend are planning on attending their first kinky event with me this weekend — Isabeau & Seb’s “Passion Fetish Ball” which takes place on Saturday October 20th. I’ve really been looking forward to it, as Isa & Seb manage to organize events that really bring together the various segments of the local kink community — from BDSM players and observers, latex & leather fetishists, goths, techo dance fans, as well as the leather, gay and lesbian members. All in all, I think it will be a great introduction for them into the local community and I’m sure they will enjoy it.

I still haven’t decided which of my three leather corsets I will wear to the event… My red one is definitely my favourite one and is quite comfortable as corsets go. However, I recently purchased some beautiful black leather arm bracers that have large O-rings and straps on them that match one of my black leather corsets, so it’s hard to decide.

I plan on attending with my pretty boy-toy toriko, as well as my part-time pain-slut “J”. The last time I played with “J” a few months ago; we both enjoyed a hard-core flogging session with my favourite chrome-handled heavy red leather flogger, followed by a double-candle wax session and then of course I proceeded to flog all the wax off his back! I’ll have to see what I feel like doing to him this time… *weg*