Sex toys come in all shapes and sizes. But Netherlands-based designer Mark Sturkenboom is bringing his sex toy to a whole new level of weird. The device, called 21 Grams, is “a memory box that allows a widow to go back to the intimate memories of a lost beloved one,” according to Sturkenboom’s website.
He’s created a special ‘memory box’ that happens to be inside a dildo. It also includes – more conventionally – a necklace and an amplifier for playing music that reminds you of the deceased. There’s also a scent diffuser and a gold-plated urn.
The glass urn allows you to place your loved one’s ashes inside — 21 grams of ashes, to be precise. It just so happens that 21 grams is popularly (and erroneously) thought of as the weight of the soul when it leaves the body on death, according to experiments performed by a doctor at the beginning of the 20th century.
Sturkenboom says he dreamed up the sex toy after noticing that an old woman that he assists with her groceries, who kept an urn containing the remains of her late husband. He felt that did not reflect the way she spoke so lovingly about him.
“In that same period I read an article about widows, taboos and sex and intimacy and then I thought to myself, ‘can I combine these themes and make an object that is about love and missing and intimacy?’”
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